Check-In – Question about relationships
Lead-Up -
Challenge
Break
Assessment
Wrap-up
Check-Out
Total Session Time hours minutes
Session Overview
Goal: Participants will examine the qualities they value most in
relationships with others. Participants will set goals for improving their
current or future relationships.
Materials: Attendance sheet, white board & markers, pen/pencils, post it
notes, worksheets and copies (relationship grid, value busters, making
healthy decisions, dealing with violence.)
Conclusion: This workshop is evaluating personal values and relationship
goals. The intention is to have the girls recognize their values, build values,
and create goals, boundaries, and values in their relationships.
Check-In
Time: 5 minutes
Materials: None
Goals: To identify and critically think about the types of behaviors in a
relationship and thinking about human emotions.
Activity: Asking the girls the question: Recap- What qualities do we look for in
a person for a relationship? List responses on the white board.
Conclusion: This question will get the girls thinking about qualities, values, and
boundaries they have around behavior, which is the lesson we have for today.
Lead-Up (plan)
Time: 20-30 Minutes
Materials: Relationship Grid handout, post-it notes, pen/pencils
Goals: Identify relationship characteristics that are valued and considered
important. To recognize the qualities we look for in a relationship that are
important to us and prioritizing them according to our values and feelings.
ACT 1
Activity: Relationship Grid. Distribute 12 post-it notes. Explain to participants
that 3 qualities that may be important to a relationship will be reviewed. They
are to write the highlighted words on post-it notes then prioritize in order of
importance on their grid. Allow a few minutes then call out 3 more qualities.
Repeat 3 more, then 3 more until 12 and the grid is complete.
Conclusion: All the grids will look different based on our individual priorities
and values. It is about taking personal control, recognition, and inventory of
our own values. Write on the white board, ask and have the participants write
answers to reflection questions:
- Regardless of how you prioritized your 12 qualities, what did you
base your choices on?
- Why is it important to know what you value in a relationship?
- How do you think your values relate to characteristics of a healthy
relationship? (refer to previous lessons or recap qualities of a healthy
relationship)
- Why might it be difficult to be in a relationship with someone whose
values are very different than yours?
Challenge (Do)
Time: 10 minutes
Materials: Values handout
Goals: Explore how your relationships match or clash with your values
Activity:
- Ask participants to think about someone they are currently close
relationship with and write their name at the top of the page. The
purpose of this activity is to see how that person supports or does not
support their values.
- Ask participants to write their top 3 values from their relationship
grid in the boxes in the first column, one per box.
- Ask participants to write in the other columns how that person
named at the top of the page supports or does not support each
value.
- Ask participants to create 1-2 goals to help them bring their
relationship into alignment with their values, building on
characteristics of a healthy relationship. Refer to healthy relationship
values or characteristics, recap if necessary.
Conclusion: Reflection Questions:
- How does it feel when our values are being upheld in a relationship?
- How does it feel when our values conflict with what we experience in
our relationship?
- How can creating personal goals help you avoid becoming a victim of
violence?
ACT 2
BREAK-10 minutes
Assessment (Review)
Time: 5-10 minutes
Materials: making healthy decisions handout
Goals: Review suggestions on making decisions to prevent and decrease
chances of violence in a relationship
Activity: Making Healthy Decisions- Ask participants to read suggestions aloud.
Ask review questions
Conclusion: Ask review questions:
- Why is the last suggestion to seek help from a trusted adult
important?
- What suggestions do you think could be added to this page?
Wrap-Up
Time: 5 minutes
Materials: Dealing with Violence handout
Goals: Tips on dealing with violence
Activity: Ask volunteer participants to read aloud. Encourage participants to
complete information at the top of the page and even call the hotline to ask
questions.
Conclusion: Make a note of the hotline number
Check-Out
Time: 10 minutes
Closing Activity: Thank the participants for their willingness to share. State
that the work pages and information are for them to keep. Distribute any
information, resources, and flyers for related activities. Invite participants to
share one thing they learned, experienced, or explored through their
workshop. Or use the statement on the white board.
I now realize ____________. each session made me think about ___________. I
liked __________. A new goal I have is to _______________. The One thing I
told someone else is ___________. I Expect to _______________.
ACT 3
