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(Building Excellent Rapport)
Do you have a problem in relationships with others? Do you think that having
connection with people is like a burden? Do you think that you are living by yourself in
your own world? Why everybody don’t give much attention to me? Why everybody
avoids you? Have you ever thought that these things can be fixed? Have you? And
what is the best way for this? The answer is building rapport.
Hi and assalamualaikum. I’m ___________________________________.
Here, I want to share with you on “Building Excellent Rapport”, that you, will never
regret applying the tips that I’ll be sharing on. But, first, let’s get through on what
building rapport really is.
Rapport building means creating a relation or connection, especially one that is
harmonious or sympathetic with another person. It’s also about achieving mutual trust
and understanding between two or more people. It leads to deep listening, meaningful
conversations and fulfilling relationships where everyone involved benefits.
When you take the time to establish rapport, you open doors for other people
to align themselves with you. As you learn how to build rapport, you’ll find that it
dovetails with communication strategies that will elevate your capacity for influence.
And now, here are some ways you can form an instant connection with anyone and
build a foundation for a deeper relationship.
The first way is ‘use mirroring when connecting with others’. Up to 93% of who
we are, and what we respond to, is nonverbal. We gravitate toward those like us or
those who are what we aspire to be. A useful tip for connecting with others is to match
and mirror the people we meet.
If their energy is high, increase yours to match. If their energy is low, level yours
off to show you’re of kindred mind and spirit. Talk with your hands if they do. Raise or
lower your voice with theirs. You can mirror people’s methods of touch and match the
strength or delicacy of their handshake. Mimic their breathing patterns and their
posture, facial expressions, tempo, and tone.
Second, ‘take a genuine interest in those you meet’. How to connect with people
usually boils down to just one word: caring. To show someone you care about them,
you need to take a genuine interest in their lives. Ask thoughtful and insightful
questions – no matter how different you are, you’ll find something of interest to connect
over. Instead of thinking about your next response or your own stories, focus solely on
them and show empathy for how they feel. This works in both personal and school
settings. Once you show you are genuinely interested in the other person especially
friend, a connection will naturally form.
The third thing is ‘make others feel good’. Want to learn how to build
connections with others? Shine the spotlight on them and make them see that they
are important. This could mean asking for advice or insight and deeply listening to their
answers, or it could mean talking up the other person to those around you. Give
genuine compliments, relay kind words others have said about them or even give
thoughtful gifts. The point is that making others feel important and valued lays the
groundwork for a solid connection.
The last one, for me it’s the most important, that is ‘watch your body language’.
Yes, ‘watch your body language. Much of communication is nonverbal and humans
are wired to pick up on subtle clues to alert them to the true intentions of those they
are interacting with. If you’re talking with someone and constantly looking around the
room, breaking eye contact, glancing at your stuff or giving other indications that you
aren’t interested, you won’t make a good impression. When looking for how to connect
with someone, the answer can be as easy as holding eye contact and focusing your
attention on what they’re saying. If you do have to put your focus elsewhere, apologize
and explain what you’re doing, then re-establish your focus.
I hope that with these 4 ways of bulding excellent rapport that I have shared to
you, it will be able to turn your! life, into something that you have never imagined before.
See you again. Thank you.
