GENDER DIFFERENCES IN SOCIAL INTERACTION
Masculine and feminine cultures generally differ in how they communicate with others.
Traditionally, masculine people and feminine people communicate with people of their own
gender in different ways. Masculine people form friendships with other masculine people based
on common interests, while feminine people build friendships with other feminine people based
on mutual support.
These differences in social interaction is mainly attributed by the diversity of culture.
However, there is a debate over how much of these differences arise from biology and how much
come from being taught how to act, but most agree there is some mixture of both. Whether
consciously or not, we rely on culture for our sense of self-identity and in almost everything we
do. Everyone wants to feel they belong and are accepted by other members of society. No one
wants to be rejected. Our own identity often comes from our sense of belonging. With the
diversity of culture, an individual adapts to the norms of his/her culture in socialization which is
why these differences occur.
These differences begin at childhood. Maltz and Broker’s research showed that the games
children play contribute to socializing children into masculine and feminine cultures. For
example, girls playing house promotes personal relationships, and playing house does not
necessarily have fixed rules or objectives. Boys, however, tend to play more competitive team
sports with different goals and strategies. These differences as children cause women to operate
from assumptions about communication, and use rules for communication that differ
significantly from those endorsed by most men.
In most cases females tend to disclose intimate particular facts more often and
communicate with fondness and confidence than males. Women tend to build closer bonds
overall, with more affectionate language and lengthy conversations. Men, on the other hand, tend
to spend time with friends during activities or shared professions. While women tend to seek out
friends in times of struggle or weakness, men are less likely to share weaknesses or emotional
concerns with their friends. Both genders tend to choose friends on the basis of proximity,
acceptance, communication, and mutual interests.
Context is very important when determining how we communicate with others. It is
important to understand what script it is appropriate to use in each respective relationship.
Specifically, understanding how affection is communicated in a given context is extremely
important.
The way a person talks to a friend should be different to the he/she communicates with a
stranger. There are certain scripts than one must remember in communicating with others. These
script depends on one’s relationship with that person.
The studies of American scholar Julia T. Wood explained that communication produces
and reproduce definition of masculinity and femininity. Masculine and feminine cultures differ
dramatically on when, how, and why they use communication.
AMERICAN PROFESSOR OF LINGUISTICS DEBORAH TANNEN’S STUDIES FOUND
THESE GENDER DIFFERENCES IN COMMUNICATION STYLE:
MEN WOMEN
A. tend to talk more than women in public A. tend to talk more than men at home
situations
B. men are more likely to look away from B. more inclined to face each other and
each other when talking make eye contact
C. tend to jump from topic to topic C. tend to talk at length about one topic
D. when listening, men are more likely to D. women make more noises such as “mm-
listen silently hmm” and “uh-huh”
E. more inclined to debate E. inclined to express agreement and
support