Melancholy is an emotion we don�t pay enough attention too.

It�s deeply cathartic

and emotionally satisfying. Life is inherently difficult. It�s never what we want
it to be. Your expectations will fail you, whether they be in a job field, romantic
affairs, or familial relations. It�s a reality of life that doesn�t fit the
narratives of a culture that is dead set on selling and promoting constant,
nauseating happiness. To lament and despair over these paradigms is sadness, which
can be cathartic in its own right.

But to accept the world for as it is and for how we�ve experienced it, with all of
its disappointments and contrasting joys, and to reflect and ponder deeply the
ramifications of our continued existence is, I believe, melancholia.

I can only speak to my experiences, but I have found, in my faith and social
circles, that to accept the ephemerality of all things and befriend the pain that
comes with the loss of all things is a satisfying, fulfilling way to move forward.
I feel passed the point that happiness is the goal of life. As vague as it is, the
goal of life, or the secret to the good life, is fulfillment�as the Greeks would
call eudaemonia. When fulfillment is the goal, happiness becomes an impermanent
friend in our life; coming and going with no promise of staying because it has no
obligation to. When it is around, perhaps, we appreciate it more as we should
deeply appreciate all the emotions we feel.

To be in the state of melancholy that I most often find myself has been one road to
such fulfillment. I come up short, the source of my disappointments being often
myself; and the healthiest emotional, spiritual, mental response I�ve been able to
have is forgiving the world. Forgiving myself that I change as often as I do,
forgiving the ecosystem of friendships and loves that they are autonomous and
change. Forgiving happiness and sources of it that they change. Forgiving the pains
themselves, too, that they change.

Perhaps pain stems from change. How expectations of potential relationships change
when we learn that they aren�t interested in us as we are them. When we are in one
state of joy and euphoria because of delightful and hopeful expectations, then in
the next we are distraught and find ourselves in the annals of YouTube Lofi comment
sections searching for catharsis, something indeed changed to cause us the pain we
are in. Melancholy doesn�t offer us a way out, but offers us something deeper.
Understanding, and perhaps disappointing resolution, but resolution nonetheless.
Melancholy says �yeah, I feel you there.� It�s empathy is thus rooted deep into our
broken souls.

Melancholy enables us to give up our claim on what we thought, wanted, and/or

expected the world to be for us. Doing so gives us a more profound satisfaction
than what can be offered in the world�s attempts to Disnify human existence.

As one of my favorite living philosophers says:

�The actual work of sacrificing all things [or giving up our claim to what we want
the world to be] looks like the continual work of forgiving all things. It looks
like the continual work of forgiving the world the fact that it is passing away.
That it is not going to last. That it is not going to satisfy me in the way that I
want to. That the world is never going to stop and freeze in place and be what I
hoped it would be and that as a result, to be a Christian who doesn�t run away from
the loss of all things, who actively takes up the work of sacrificing all things,
that as a practical matter, mostly looks like my continually engaging in the work
of forgiving all things.

In particular, forgiving the loss of all things. Forgiving even the loss of what I
hoped things would be even in the best of scenarios. Forgiving myself the fact that
I have lost what I thought I wanted to be, to one degree or another, in one way or
another, professionally or religiously or in relationships with other people.
Coming back again and again here to the work of forgiving all things.� � Adam S.
Miller (Maxwell Institute Podcast)

"Suicide doesn�t stop the pain,� �It gives it to someone else.�

- [ ] 1: We would miss you

- [ ] 2: It�s worth it to be alive

- [ ] 3: It does get better, believe it or not, it will eventually get better.

- [ ] 4: There�s so much you would miss out on doing.

- [ ] 5: You are worth it don�t let anyone, even yourself tell you otherwise.

- [ ] 6: God made you for a reason, you have a reason.

- [ ] 7: There is always a reason to live!

- [ ] 8: So many people care about you

- [ ] 9: You are amazing

- [ ] 10: I don�t even know you and I love you

- [ ] 11: I care for you

- [ ] 12: There are plenty of people that love you

- [ ] 13: Youre literally perfect!! <3

- [ ] 14: There are plenty of people that care for you

- [ ] 15: God loves you

- [ ] 16: God cares about you

- [ ] 17: Sometimes life is hard but it will make you a stronger person don�t
worry!

- [ ] 18: What about all the things you�ve always wanted to do?What about all the
things you�ve planned,but never got around doing? You can�t do them if your dead.

- [ ] 19: I want you to be alive

- [ ] 20: So many people want you alive!

- [ ] 21: You won�t be able to listen to Music if you die

- [ ] 22: You�ll never be able to listen to your favorite song if you die.

- [ ] 23: You�ll never be able to listen to your favorite singer if you�re gone

- [ ] 24: You�ll never be able to listen to your favorite rapper if you�re gone.

- [ ] 25: listening to really loud music

- [ ] 26: Killing yourself is never worth it,you�ll hit both yourself & the people
who care about you.

- [ ] 27: There are so many people that would miss you,including me

- [ ] 28: the clouds

- [ ] 29: You are gorgeous

- [ ] 30: Someone out there would die for you :�)

- [ ] 31: How do you think your family would feel?

- [ ] 32: Proving people wrong with your success.

- [ ] 33: Watching the jerks that doubted you fail at life.

- [ ] 34: You�ll never have the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold
day.

- [ ] 35: You�ll never have the feeling of walking into a cold building on a hot
day.

- [ ] 36: Being stupid in public just because you can.

- [ ] 37: Helping other people.

- [ ] 38: You have a future to live for..

- [ ] 39: Being alive is good

- [ ] 40: thinking about happy memories

- [ ] 41: Finding your soulmate.

- [ ] 42: All nighters!!!

- [ ] 43: Sleeping in all day

- [ ] 44: You can look back at yourself later in your life and be glad you didn�t
commit suicide.

- [ ] 45: Nobody could ever replace you

- [ ] 46: You�re unique

- [ ] 47: pets

- [ ] 48: petting pets

- [ ] 49: Netflix and movies

- [ ] 50: Decorating the Christmas tree

- [ ] 51: Dreams that make you smile

- [ ] 52: Breakfast in bed

- [ ] 53: New clothes

- [ ] 54: New shoes

- [ ] 55: New books

- [ ] 56: Sunrises and Sunsets

- [ ] 57: Friends

- [ ] 58: The ocean

- [ ] 59: Sunlight

- [ ] 60: Your family

- [ ] 61: Inside jokes

- [ ] 62: Birthdays

- [ ] 63: Christmas

- [ ] 64: Family traditions

- [ ] 65: The taste of your favorite food

- [ ] 66: Favorite tv show

- [ ] 67: Favorite movie

- [ ] 68: Going to new places

- [ ] 69: The ability to peruse whatever you choose (there are over 7 billion
people on Earth, don�t be afraid to be you)

- [ ] 70: To earn money and rewards

- [ ] 71: You can always flip your life around.

- [ ] 72: To find the perfect job/career for you

- [ ] 73: Pizza

- [ ] 74: Kittens

- [ ] 75: New haircuts

- [ ] 76: Moments you can look back to and laugh at

- [ ] 77: The clouds

- [ ] 78: The world is better with you in it

- [ ] 79: Roller Coasters

- [ ] 80: Showers

- [ ] 81: Cake
- [ ] 82:Growing old

- [ ] 83: Growing old with the person you love

- [ ] 84: Singing

- [ ] 85: Sleeping

- [ ] 86: Icecream

- [ ] 87: Cookies

- [ ] 88: food in general

- [ ] 89: Movie nights

- [ ] 90: Candy

- [ ] 91: Popcorn

- [ ] 92: Daydreaming

- [ ] 93: Happy moments

- [ ] 94: Halloween

- [ ] 95: Sleepovers

- [ ] 96: Parties

- [ ] 97: Having a good personality

- [ ] 98: Making people happy

- [ ] 99: Bonfires

- [ ] 100: Sitting on rooftops

- [ ] 101: Vacations

- [ ] 102: Hearing crazy stories

- [ ] 103: Telling crazy stories

- [ ] 104: Treehouses

- [ ] 105: Starbucks

- [ ] 106: You�ve changed someone�s life

- [ ] 107: If you�re gone how will you achieve great things?

- [ ] 108: Everyone has talent including you

- [ ] 109: Eating crazy food

- [ ] 110: Hanging out with your friends

- [ ] 111: Nobody could ever replace you

- [ ] 112: You have so much to live for

- [ ] 113: Your dreams need some fulfilling to do

- [ ] 114: Living life to the fullest

- [ ] 115: Heck,I would miss you like crazy

- [ ] 116: Your family and friends would be devastated if you were gone

- [ ] 117: Someone out there is constantly praying to meet someone like you

- [ ] 118: Your future

- [ ] 119: You could save so many lives

- [ ] 120: You are too beautiful to disappear

- [ ] 121: You are bigger than any of your problems

- [ ] 122: You are never alone during this struggle

- [ ] 123: Tomorrow is a new day!

- [ ] 124: You are worth more than you think

- [ ] 125: But,the final and most important one is, just being able to experience
life,because even if your life doesn�t seem so great right now,anything could
happen!

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All suicide hotline numbers if you need someone to talk to :

- [ ] Argentina: +5402234930430

- [ ] Australia: 131114

- [ ] Austria: 142; for children and young people, 147

- [ ] Belgium: 106

- [ ] Bosnia & Herzegovina: 080 05 03 05

- [ ] Botswana: 3911270

- [ ] Brazil: 188 for the CVV National Association

- [ ] Canada: 1 .833 .456 .4566, 5147234000

- [ ] (Montreal); 18662773553 (outside Montreal)

- [ ] Croatia: 014833888
- [ ] Denmark: +4570201201

- [ ] Egypt: 7621602

- [ ] Estonia: 3726558088;

- [ ] Russian 3726555688

- [ ] Finland: 010 195 202

- [ ] France: 0145394000

- [ ] Germany: 08001810771

- [ ] Holland: 0900767

- [ ] Hong Kong: +852 2382 0000

- [ ] Hungary: 116123

- [ ] India: 8888817666

- [ ] Ireland: +44058457909090

- [ ] Italy: 800860022

- [ ] Japan: +810352869090

- [ ] Mexico: 5255102550

- [ ] New Zealand: 0800543354

- [ ] Norway: +4781533300

- [ ] Philippines: 028969191

- [ ] Poland: 5270000

- [ ] Portugal: 21 854 07 40/8 . 96 898 21 50

- [ ] Russia: 0078202577577

- [ ] Spain: 914590050

- [ ] South Africa: 0514445691

- [ ] Sweden: 46317112400

- [ ] Switzerland: 143

- [ ] United Kingdom: 08457909090

- [ ] USA: 18002738255

- [ ] Veterans� Crisis Line: 1 800 273 8255/ text 383255

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I like me better by Lauv: @ozwA

Classic by MKTO: @A4Ds

Just friends by JORDY: @eINM

Eastside by Benny Blanco,Halsey,& Khalid: @UvGY

What makes you beautiful by 1D: @-A4E

Cheerleader by OMI: @QfW8

Everybody talks by Neon Trees: @84lE

Dear future husband by Meghan Trainor: @D_40

Backyard Boy by Claire Rosinkranz: @shy8

Shut up and dance with me by WALK THE MOON: @lx6Q

iSpy by KYLE: @gMPU

Trap queen by Fetty Wap: @NKio

LMK by Lil XXEL: @IC24

Dynamite by BTS: @WNZg

- fun facts!

1.Otters hold hands when sleeping is they don�t drift away from each other

2.Penguins only have one mate their entire life, they also propose by giving them a
pebble

3.Cows have best friends

4.you�re perfect <3

- another message: -

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To all those people being bullied

- To all those people who have lost a loved one

- To all those people who have lost a pet

- To all those people being abused

- To all those people going through depression

- To all those people with anxiety

- To all those people in poverty

- To all those people going through a breakup

- To all those people having a bad day

- To all those people with insecurities

- To all those people just having a hard time

Don�t forget

- Your weakness today

- Is your strength tomorrow

- It always gets better

- Your loved ones will remain in your hearts

- You always have the memories

- Love yourself

- Stand up for yourself

- Money can�t buy happiness

- Those lovers

- Just weren�t right

- Don�t abuse yourself

- Don�t abuse others

- Kill them with kindness

- Treat people with kindness

- We�ve all had these times

- There will always be a hole in our chests

But
- Let�s all be each others� strength

- whether you�re

- Black

- White

- LGBTQ+

- Christian

- Atheist

- Etc

- Love yourself

- Love others

- Don�t cut

- Don�t kill

- Don�t criticize

- Don�t beg

- Don�t do drugs

- Don�t starve yourself

- Don�t starve others

We aren�t supposed to do any of that

- Just keep your strength

- Keep your faith

- Don�t change because you were told to

- Be yourself

- Sometimes playing a character, isn�t the best thing to do. Have a great day, and
don�t stop spreading awareness about things that are happening currently in the
world.