SREE VIDYANIKETHAN ENGINEERING COLLEGE (auToncMous) sree wornnmerngn SREE SAINATH NAGAR, A. RANGAMPET -517 102 ko PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT (168T6H502) UNI ELF-ESTEEM & SELF-IMPROVEMENT WAND ACCEPT YOURSELE: You must be aware of yourself such as who you are; your likes and dislikes, your habits, qualities, values, strengths and weaknesses, You also have an image of yourself that most likely has many dimensions, such as: 4) 8) ) >) 5 Physical appearance (attractive, handsome, average): The first thing you see when you look at someone could be their hair, clothes, nose or figure: These are all examples of physical characteristics. Your physical characteristics can play a role in defining how you are treated. While many physical characteristic can’t be changed, you can improve your physical characteristics to ensure a more positive outlook, Make sure you have washed and put on clean clothes so that you can show others you are a little bit Classier. Even just a smile can show you are friendly. Athletic ability (agile, good at sports): You should evaluate your fitness. You have to develop fitness with sport-focussed workouts and test your fitness through competitive sports. It is rewarding to be good at a competitive sport, Unexposed weaknesses can lead to performance even in professional work centres, We ought to develop the Athietic skill levels 2s a versatile and user-friendly to fill this role. Senge of humour { hilarious, good, dry) Having a good sense of humour reduces stress, helps you cope with pain, creates empathy in social situations. Life is better when you ere laughing. Those who have good sense of humour not only see the value in making others laugh, but they prioritize laughter themselves. Moreover they are healthier and happier. They instantly boost their mood Laugh even can soothe even tension, Special talents (computer Whiz, singer, writer, actor We are all born with talents that set us apart from the crowd, special traits that make us Who we are and shape ourselves the best. Whether your talent is singing, swimming, coming up with creative ideas or being an excellent speaker, You have to celebrate what makes you unique. Realizing your talents and having the confidence to share them will help you reach your full potential and feel more satisfied in life. Morals and ethics{ high standards, senso of duty, ethical behaviour): Ethics and morals relate to right and wrorg conduct. While they are sometimes used interchangeably, they are different, Ethics refer to rules provided by an external source, eg codes of conduct in workplaces or principles in religions. Morals refer to an indlividuat’s own principles regarding right and wrong.F) Aotitudes: (natural abilities-Physical or mental {An aptitude is a component of a competence to do a certain kind of work at a certain level; outstanding aptitude can be considered ‘talent’. An aptitude may be physical or mental. Aptitude is inborn potential to do certain kinds of work whether developed or undeveloped, Aptitude is expressed in interest, and is reflected in current performance which is expected to improve over time with training. G) Values and beliefs: (stated and impli SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-IMAGE: ‘Values are stable long-lasting beliefs about what is important to a person. They become standards by which people order their lives and make their choices. A belief will develop into a value when the person’s commitment to it grows and they see it as being. important. Beliefs are basically assumptions that we make about the world and our values'stem from those beliefs. Our values are things that we deem important and can include concepts like “equality, honesty, education, effort, perseverance, loyalty, faithfulness, Belief in your abilities and your worth or value is self-esteem, Self-esteem is also which you like, accept, and respect yourself, Self-Image is made up of variables such as physical appearance, athletic ability, sense of humour, spectal talents, moral and ethics, aptitudes and values and beliefs. When you have high self-esteem, it will help you meet new challenges and you can become all that you can be. You are always successful and have a rich full life, Self-esteem is not conceit or self absorption. When you have genuine self-esteem, you like, accept, and respect yourself. You can also recognize your ewn worth and be aware of the worth of others. LOW SELF-ESTEEM: The reaction of the people who have low self-esteem as follows: They dislike themselves. They blame athers for their own weaknesses or faults. They become easily frustrated or defensive. They avold situations that make them uncomfortable, They feel week and incompetent. ‘They feel that others don’t value them They express few emotions, They are influence easily by others. Low self-esteem often lead them to loneliness, anxiety, resentment, irritability, and little life satisfaction. TIPS TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM. 1. Engage in positive self-talk: Give yourself recognition, praise, and positive self-talk each day. Tell yourself “well done” when you do well, Remind yourself about the times when you excelled, learned 2 new skill, or treated another person well2. Remember what you lik if: Know your strengths, Make a list of your good qualities and place it where you will see It each day. Some starter thoughts ~ you are aatient, you are caring, you enjoy learning new things. You like to help others. 3. Talkwith others about your good qualities: A trusted friend, relative, oF counsellor often sees qualities in you that you take for granted or overlook. 4, Focus on your achievements: ‘Your achievements and successes regardless of how large or small are Important to your self-image. 5, Plan for your future Look forward rather than dwelling on the past. Make a list of things you want to do or want to change. Visualize your dreams- what you hope to accomplish in the future. Know your ‘weakness and set goals to overcome your weaknesses. Self-osteom boosters «Ihave the power to change myself © Lam free to choose to live as | wish and to give priority to my needs, wants, and desires. + Ideserve happiness and success. can make my own choices and decisions. © Lamworthy of being loved. = [can forgive myself for mistakes. + Iwill not give up on myself ‘* Jam satisfied if have done my best Don’t of improving Self-Esteem: 1. Don't try to imitate someone else: Attempting to imitate or be like someone else may lead to a further lack of self-worth and self-confidence. You are unique individual, and you cannot be someone else, Strive to improve yourself rather than comparing yourself with others, 2. Don't about yourself Don’t criticize yourself for not being as successful, smart, popular, oF attractive as someone else. Remember, you have qualities that others do not possess. If you feel others have much mote of what you desire, you may become obsessed with envy which is another's advantages, success, processions and so on, You may pick up valuable clues to an appropriate level self-esteem by observing family members, teachers, and friends you admire. 3. Don’t neglect yourself: You are important. Safeguard your health and be conscientious about your grooming and appearance. Take advantage of educational opportunities. Treat yourself to a walk in the part, a trip in a museum, a couple of hours with a good book, or another activity that you enjoy. These activities are self-renewing and fulfilling. Take time to focus on your wants, needs, and desires. This is not selfishness as long as what you want doesn’t injure cr interfere with how others live4, Don'tlet setbacks get the best of you: Lack of success simply means you are not successful yet. Don’t think of a setback as failure. Instead, think of the inevitable setbacks you will face as learning experiences or signals to change direction. REWARDS OF GOOD SELF-ESTEEM: Positive self-esteem results from finding the positives in your life- academic success, self: control, self-acceptance, and optimism about the future. People with good self-esteem are likely to be working deliberately to strengthen and improve themselves, They understand that valuing their positive qualitias is not about competing with others. they understand themselves and pursue what is best for them. Everyone has special gifts and unique qualities that make that person exceptional Think about the qualities that make you unique and then strive to improve those good qualities, Self esteem enables you to project self-confidence People who have high self-esteem have chances to, © Take on responsibility (have a “can-do” attitude} ‘© Take pride in their accomplishments. © Approach challenges positively and with enthusiasm, © Not afraid to show a broad range of emotions. © Feel qualified to influence others. * Tolerate frustration, challenges, and setbacks in life, FACE AND ACCEPT REALITY. People often avoid facing and accepting reality in order to maintain a false, unrealistic self image, They may hide from reality. They refuse to accept actions or events as being real. People should not accept as themselves. All the actions that you do are inconsistent with your self-image Asa result, a kind of tension {ansiety, distress, or conflit) grows you may feel deep resentment. If the conflict is extremely offensive to your self-esteem, you may blame yourself for allowing it to happen. The more you use this kind of pretence, the greater will be the stress you will have to endure, side you. In your disappointment, You must learn to recognize and accept your experiences as real, Then your self-image will ot be in conflict with your life experiences. You will know and like your inner self. Your tension and conflict with reality will disappear. At the same time, the barriers to building your self-esteem wil also disappear. Masks oF Every one occasionally puts up a false front to mask (to cover or hide} his or her true feelings. Or they may put on an act. They play a role tc create a false impression. The purpose may be to avoid conflict or even to work or demanding situation. Sometimes wearing a mask is the right thing to do, considering the circumstances. For example, if @ person has a headache but is required to serve customers,, wearing a smile (masking the physical discomfort) is better than complaining. But always wearing a mask, playing a role can be a tiresome burden. You are not likely to relax and 4feel good about yourself if you constantly to keep up false pretences especially when you present yourself to the world as you are better than you are, People in your life who try unsuccessfully to appear ambitious, intelligent, popular, open minded, courageous, or well informed about something when they are not. Although masks may be effective in fooling some people, in the long run they are ineffective, Eventually, people see behind the mask, no matter how carefully the mask is kept up. As you grow self-understanding and self- esteem, you will feel better about revealing your true personality to others. You wil feel less need to cover up- to present a false image of yourself. You will be willing to take off some of the masks you may have been using to hide your real self or create false impressions. Failure can pave the way to success “Failure” isa big, scary word for most people. You are taught that failure is something that should be avoided at all costs. The truth however, is that failure is inevitable, and actually failure leads to success. The best people in their respective fields fall in all the time. In an Olympic competition ‘where there are ten best athletes in the world, there are also nine fallures every time they complete. Bill Gates became the richest man in the world, but his first attempt at starting a company wes a huge flop. Every successful person has these sorts ef failure stories to tell, They have all learnt to toke their failures and use them to achieve success. Here are a few ways how to use failures as stepping stones for success. ‘L. Learn from your mistakes: ‘A mistake is a rare and precious opportunity to learn something. By making a mistake you pave the way for a more successful future. As long as you don’t repeat your mistakes, you should never be afraid of making them 2. Don't hide your failure: ‘We all have a tendency to remember our victories but to forget our losses, Its very useful however to also keep track of the things you have failed at. Accept failures and value them as life experiences. Keeping physical reminders of failures will also remind you not to repeat them. 3. Let failure teach you about yourself: Knowing yourself is one of the most important factors in achieving success. You must have enough courage to embrace whatever life throws at you. if you believe in your own character and strength, you will maximise your chances of being successful one day. 4. Let fail rs for It may seem illogical, but a failure is by definition an unplenned out come. it takes you down a road that you would otherwise have avoided; it takes you to a place you would otherwise never have gone. Pay attention to the opportunities that your failures bring across your path, There will be many; you have to be open to them. 5. failure is not the opposite of success: Failures are a part of the process of success. The opposite of success is apathy. Those who ve failed the most are also those that succeed most often. They try more than the rest of others. You should not stop trying. Failure is not only an option, itis a recommendation.‘BE SENSITIVE TO FEED BACK: Feedback is information about yourself from another perspective that you can use to evaluate how you are doing. Always be open, alert, and sensitive to both positive and negative feedback, After evaluating the feedback, you may need to make changes within yourself. Some people may ignore feedback that comes from negative experiences. However, these experiences Provide valuable information you can use to improve. You need to interpret and use feedback wisely. The feedback may not always be what you want to hear... but listen, reflect on what you hear, and adjust. You should concentrate your energy on those things that are within your power to change. You should not take negative feedback personally. You should not overreact if you are challenged: the feedback is about the situation, not you as a person. Learn from the feedback and make necessary changes. ALERT FOR PRAISE AND CRITICISM Anyone in a position to observe your behaviour can give your feedback. You have to welcome these opportunities to learn about how others perceive you. Try not to be hurt, offended, o resentful Even when criticism is hurtful, you can learn from it. Don’t allow your anger to detract from the value of the feedback, Close friends and associates are a good source of feedback. Counsellors, teachers, and employment supervisors or co-workers can also provide you with valtable information about your hehaviour. But ‘more importantly, you may feel a sense of trust and safety in talking with them, In an environment of trust, you can feel safe to reveal your real self. Be wiling to share openly and honestly. Without that openness on your part, the person may not be willing to be open and candid about negative feedback, DEN !PROVEMENT PLAN: Ifyou are to take charge of yourself and become successful in your life and work, you must start with 2 clear, realistic image of yourself. You must also begin with a clear, realistic image of where you are row and where you want to be in future. Once you have a good idea of what needs to be accomplished, you are ready to begin making plans- plans for the self-improvement that is needed 5 you develop your success identity, A sel-improvemert plan is not static; rather, itis a life-long process that changes with your growth and experiences. a self-improvement plan involves a realistic vision of your future self, long-term goals, and an action plan to guide you in the self-improvement process. Visualize your future Self-improvement begins with visualizing your future self, identifying specific and measurable goals, and devising action plans to meet those goals. To visualize your potential, use 2 technique called imaging. Athletes have imagined (or visualized) themselves excelling in sporting events, and salespeople have imagined themselves achieving high sales. The process of growing to reach your Breatest potential is called self-actualization. Imagine the personal qualities and characteristics you will need to develop to achieve this image of success. When you complete the imaging. process, write down your visualizations and review them often. Make a commitment to yourself to achieveyour lofty goals and dreams. Finally, incorporate the desired qualities into yourself improvement plan. Self-actualization i a lifelong process, Expect to reassess and redefine yourself as you move ahead in life, As you gain self-confidence and your identity evolves, you grow personally and professionally into a successful individual Set Goals: All successful people have goals. They want to achieve goals that are stated clearly within a specified time period, An action plan should be organized to achieve specific goals. The overall process for achieving goals is called goal-setting, By knowing what you want to achieve, you can direct your energy toward your goals. When you set goals, consider the broad aspects that are important in your life * Career © Educational and training. © Finances, ‘© Relationships (family, friends and co-workers} © Health ‘* Hobbies and interests, When you set goals, state them clearly, put them in writing and include the date you expect to complete them. Don’t consider vague goals. Employers want to hire people who care about thelr future and want to grow In their careers. SMART goal: are well-focused, achievable goals, SMART goals are: Specific (what exactly do you want to accomplish) Measurable (How will you assess your progress) Attainable (Is your goal within your reach) Relevant (Is your goal important to your plan for life?) Timely (What is your deadline for completing this goal?) Development Action Plans: Develop an action plan as a strategy for reaching your goals. For each goal write down the steps and timeframe that will bring you closer to achieving your long-term goals. Putting your goals and action plans in writing is essential if you are to stay focussed on what you want to accomplish. Here is one many ways to create an action plan, Determine the goal Chatt the route, Define every step it will tke to attain the goal and keep on track, Modify the personal action plan as necessary, Review the action plan.EHAVIOR OF TH If your self-improvement plan requires a change in behaviour on your part, you may find it helpful to Use behaviour modification, Behaviour modification refers to the use of techniques to improve or change behaviour, It rewards for making good decisions and discourages unwanted behaviour, A reward or benefit can be a strong motivational taol to change behaviour. The reward of benefit used 's referred to as reinforcement. Rewards are generally better motivators than punishments. Rewards for behaviour modification should be realistic. Don’t promise yourself an expensive digital camera if you can only afford a moderately priced one, Personal development is a step-by-step process, so plan small rewards at each step along the way. With a potential rewards list at hand, review your self-Improvement plan. Match specific activities with appropriate rewards. For example, you may decide to use more effective study skills, start tasks sooner, control your temper, or get more rest. You may find it helpful to write a contract with yourself in which you promise that you are going to change in some way. include the date the contract takes effect, what you need to do, a realistic date to Fulll the contract, and the reward you will receive. Lastly, sign your name to show your commitment to the change in behaviour. LEARN EROM A MENTOR: K When you begin a new job, there is a lot to learn such as procedures, policies, rule (written and unwritten}. Most co-workers are eager to welcome a new employee and help them learn thelr job. Many companies recognize the benefits of establishing formal mentoring progrems. Typically someone is assigned to help new employees with on-the-job orientation and training. The person who helps an individual develop on the job Is called a mentor. A mentor may offer advice, answer auestions, help 2 new employee understand the culture of the business, share expertise and ‘experiences and serve as a role madel, Mentoring relationships require open communication and a commitment from both parties. A mentor is someone who takes a personal interest in helping you reach your potential at work and in life. Take advantages of this opportunity to ask questions and learn from the more experienced Person, Be open minded and respectfully consider the mentor’s advice, The employee and the mentor learn from each other, receive positive energy from the relationship, and grow professionally. SEEK COUNSELLING: ‘A counsellor o therapist can help with the process of understanding and appreciating where you are in your personal and career development, Talking with a professional counsellor can help you appreciate the many positive aspects of your personality, your education, your employment experiences, and your natural abilities. Large companies and government agencies may have a formal Employee Assistance Program (EAP) to help employees deal with personal problems that might adversely affect their job performance, health or well-being. Information you share with an EAP counsellor is strictly confidential so you should feel comfortable talking openly about your uestions, concerns, and issues. Information about EAP programs can be found in the human Fesources office of most companies or government agencies. EAP services generally includeassessment, short-term counselling, and referral services for employees and their household members. ‘TRY OUT A WORK SITUATION: You can evaluate your potential for success in an occupation through an actual, or “try-out”. A try= ‘out experience provides an actual on-the Job opportunity for a limited period of time. For the musician, athlete, chef, taxi driver, and sales associates, experience provides clear and obvious signs of success and failure. An opportunity to work briefly would let you know if you enjoy working with people, Successful performance will reinforce your career choice. ‘An internship is another way to test your interests and abilities and build your self-confidence before you commit to 2 career program. An internship program coordinates classroom and laboratory training with on-the job training in the work envirorment. For many college students, internships Increase job opportunities after graduation because of the network of relationships developed with people outside school and home. UNIT-1 SELF-ESTEEM & SELF-IMPROVEMENT a “Becoming a better driver” as a goal or objective, Explain, ‘Failure can pave the way to success.” Justify ‘What problems can you cause for yourselves by stating your goals in vague, unrealistic terms? 4 How do you evaluate your positive personal qualities? 5 |] "Being confident about one’s abilities a sign of high self-esteem” Elaborate. 6 Discuss the strategies to improve yourself. EEE 7 List four examples of try-out experiences that might be of interest to you, 8 Can selfesteem be developed? Iso state the strategies. 9 “WMlaral compass plays a vital role in making di 10 “One's failures are the great lessons that turn one’s life”. Substantiate THE END