Recognizing Emotions
Strong emotions can sometimes be difficult to handle and strong emotions that are not
handled well often can lead to big problems. Many times we mislabel our underlying strong
emotion as “ANGER.” It is vital to figure out what emotion or emotions one is feeling to be
able to resolve a problem situation.
Choose a strategy or strategies that will help you
feel better:
The following steps will help you handle painful
• Talk with a close friend, family member, R.A., Hall
emotions much more successfully: Director, or counselor for emotional support
• Dig deep enough to discover what “triggered” your • Write out feelings and thoughts in a journal
strong emotion • Use positive self-talk to get through the feelings
• Usually underneath anger are other more hidden • Use distraction to take attention to something else
feelings
• Notice the feeling… and let it go
• Feelings oftentimes occur together and may be
• Have a conversation with the person who was
difficult to separate
involved
• To deal with the problem, you need to know what
• Remember that you are in charge of what you feel;
exact feelings are going on for you at a particular
no one can “make” you feel a certain way – you
moment
control yourself and your reactions
o “What am I feeling right now? When and
• Feelings can come and go quickly
where did this start?
• Let go of a bad mood quickly; hang on to a good
o “What was going on at the time? Was
mood for a long time
anyone else involved?”
• Do something to cheer yourself up
• In your mind, forgive the person who made the
hurtful comment
• Make yourself as resilient as possible
UNH Psychological and Counseling Services (PACS)-3 Garrison Avenue, Smith Hall - 3rd Floor, Durham NH 03825
Tel: 603-862-2090 Website: www.unh.edu/pacs
Psychological and Counseling Services (PACS)
3 Garrison Avenue, Smith Hall - 3rd Floor, Durham, NH 03824
Tel: 603-862-2090 Website: www.unh.edu/pacs