FROM NO DATES TO

MULTIPLE DATES A WEEK

ON DATING APPS
THE BLUEPRINT TO TRANSFORMING YOUR
DATING LIFE

Dating By Anson
 TABLE OF CONTENTS

1. Dating apps don’t work because you use them wrong .......................... 2
2. How Mathias and I use dating apps right...............................................9

3. The mindset to never get ghosted........................................................11

4. How to get her straight out on a date ...................................................14

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 Dating apps don’t work because you use them wrong

If you’re sitting around complaining, dating apps don’t work.

If you’re blaming your city, your height, your looks, your bald head,
it’s because you’re not using them right.

Your dating app profile is your social CV. Amongst hundreds or

thousands of other CVs.

Women are comparing you. The more attractive they are, the more
options they have, the harsher they will be swiping right on a man.

Oftentimes only qualifying profiles based on how few negatives

they can find.

So If you don’t stand out and or have too many “negatives”, they
won’t give you a chance and swipe left.

It’s that simple. You just have to fit into the 10% category of
profiles.

The more your profile stands out, the more attention you get, the
more opportunities you have to date attractive women.

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 Dating apps don’t work because you use them wrong

Is a 10% profile difficult to get? No. The vast majority of men are so
lazy, they will do one of 2 things.

They’ll either pull together the best shitty photos they have.
Oftentimes selfies that make them look try hard. Or they’ll ask
some incompetent friend to take those photos for them.

I almost prefer the latter option because at least it’s with the
intention of getting dating app photos.

But in either case these strategies lack a method of what needs to

appear in those photos to make women stop and swipe right.

So I’ll show you the basics of what needs to happen in your photos
to be the most attractive man possible.

And If it’s not enough because you need a proper step by step plan
on how to make those photos happen for you, we can hop on a call
and see what else is missing.

I’ve coached hundreds of men in the last two years.

Most of them are not conventionally attractive.

They had horrible results on the apps because of their shitty

photos and now with a bit of work they have more dates than they
can ever manage.

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 How Mathias and I used dating apps right

Take my client Mathias:

Before:

After:

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 How Mathias and I used dating apps right

Is this the same person? Yes

Did he have surgery to change his looks? No

Both before and after pics were the first photo appearing on his
profile.

The before photo got him 2-10 matches a week.

The after photo gets him 30-40 a week.

Result, his optimised profile is now favoured by the algorithm,

which draws greater attention to his profile, bringing him more
matches & opportunities to meet attractive women every week.

Opportunities he can consistently convert into 2-3-4 dates a week

with a clear messaging strategy.

What got him there?

My 1-1 coaching.

Mathias came out of a difficult divorce.

Starting with us, he wanted to make sure he'd never be in a

relationship with the wrong woman again.

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 How Mathias and I used dating apps right

12 weeks later...

He has more dates with attractive women than he could ever

imagine. He takes his time before letting women into his life. He
understands female psychology. How to attract them via text,
seduce them on a date and vet them for relationship purposes.

Mathias is only 1 of the many clients I have coached.

Head to my Instagram @datingbyanson to see more

transformations.

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 How Mathias and I used dating apps right

My photos went from these…

(bad clothes, potato phone shoot and awkward posture, bad quality)

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 How Mathias and I used dating apps right

To these…

(better lighting on my face, better posing, more fashionable, high quality pics)

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 The mindset to never get ghosted

The worst thing you can do texting women is to come across

needy.

Neediness to women means low value guy, doesn’t date (hot

women) much, isn’t self assured, has personal /professional
issues etc, etc, etc..

Sometimes the second you express neediness is the second

women ghost you because that’s when they’ll start imagining all
these negative traits about you.

Also, as explained in the previous chapter, because they have all

these options they need to find reasons, however small, to
disqualify you.

So It's important you cultivate an abundance mindset which can

show in different ways.

Increasing your matches 5-10 fold with a solid profile will already
help you develop this abundance mindset.

But over text, especially with very in demand women, there are
rules you have to follow because ultimately you don’t care about
the matches (the validation). You care about moving these
matches onto dates.

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 The mindset to never get ghosted

Basically, you have to act like the guy who's picky. Who isn't
phased by hot women, and who:

Teases, flirts and challenges them

Avoids questions of doom
Writes short messages
And quickly leads the conversation to a date

Also your messages need to be playful. Even when you tease, flirt
and challenge them you have to do it in a light hearted way that
doesn’t offend them.

In the next chapter, I’ll show you text examples so you see the
abundance mindset in action.

Don’t make your first message too complicated. It will make you
look try-hard. A good opener is 1. short 2. it observes something
about her profile 3. It’s playful and cheeky. You can also follow this
structure: observe what you see + twist it If you can’t think of
anything, you can write a standard opener like: “You look like
trouble, what trouble have you caused lately?

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 How to get her straight out on a date

With the below example, I assume attraction and familiarity from the
beginning...

I first send her a “can I be honest?” opener to “bait” a reply. Then I follow up
by noticing something about her profile adding a barrier or constraint to her
and I dating. Your first or second message can offer a compliment but it’s
always important she sees you’re number 1 not sold from the get go and
number 2 where you’re questioning whether dating is actually gonna work
between you two. Examples of barriers or constraints can be anything like
“here’s hoping you’re not crazy” or “fingers crossed you’re not gonna ruin
my life”. In this case is use a personalised message: “here’s hoping you’re
not gonna show up late to the date”.

From this point onwards, maintain

tension and vibe a little bit.

Always remember to qualify and reward

her because she needs to see you’re
not only interested in her looks but you
also value her personality.

My third message shows I have

standards and I appreciate punctuality
with something as simple as “I like
that... we’d be worst enemies
otherwise”. I then transition into the
vibing part where “I’m getting to know
her” but also phrase the star sign
question in a way to keep the tension
alive.

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How to get her straight out on a date

My message provoked an positive emotional reaction

where she’s putting more effort into the conversation.
Now she plays along, she’s laughing, she’s texting emojis
and asking me questions.

To keep the tension alive in my fourth message I text her

“fuck...not a Gemini - we’re done.” This acts as a little bit
of push with me jokingly saying it’s never gonna work out
between us.

At this point she very engaged, we’re texting back and

forth, she keeps laughing, asking me questions and
sending me emojis. The next part of my texting needs to
start anchoring the conversation to a date.

So instead of us remaining on the topic of star signs, my

fifth message leads the conversation to a date
recommendation. I do that just by asking “what do you
like to do for fun?” It’s also another good “getting to know
you” question because it gets her talking about her
interests and hobbies.

In this case, she’s new to the city and doesn’t really know
how to answer my question so flips the question onto
me. I just summarise what I like to do on a date in my
sixth message and here we go, she wants to keep the chit
chat for later and invites herself onto a date.

In most cases women will wait for YOU to propose a

date. So all you need to do in your seventh message is
screen for availability with: “Do you get much free time
during the week?” or “Do you get much free time over the
next few days?”. You follow this up in your eigth message
with suggesting a date: “Cool. Well I think you’re a nice
girl.” SEND. “Perhaps we should go for a drink
sometime.” SEND.

The ninth and final message is stupidly simple: “Let’s

exchange numbers and we’ll make a plan”. SEND.
“What’s your whatsapp?”. SEND. “Let’s” is a really
powerful word. It suggests you’re a team looking to make
this date happen together. Also if she’s a little bit less
engaged during the conversation you can always replace
“what’s your whatsapp?” with “let’s do it.” SEND. “#”
SEND. “Just send me your # and I’ll shoot you a text”.
SEND

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 How to get her straight out on a date

Texting shouldn’t be this crazy back and forth process where you
become her pen pal.

This will get you friendzoned.

All you need is a few back and forths that are playful and spike her
emotions, then invite her out on a date.

Also, only ask questions once she’s hooked into the conversation
(she laughs, she asks questions or other indicators of interest).

If you’re looking to know more about how you can implement these
principles let’s have a free strategy call where we can look over
your profile and texts and see how we can improve.

This call is a no strings attached call. We can give you feedback on

your profile and texts and give you a game plan on how you can do
it later either on your own or with our help.

Just DM us on Instagram @datingbyanson with the word “BOSS“

and we can talk more about the details of the free strategy call.

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