KNOWING

YOURSELF
PREPARED BY:
JHON MAR MONTUNO
OBJECTIVES:
 learners can explain that knowing themselves
can make them accept their strengths and
limitations deal with other people better
 share their unique characteristics, habits, and

expereinces
 maintain a journal

 appreciate and value themsleves

 KNOWING YOURSELF
WHO AM I?
DO I REALLY
KNOW MYSELF?
SHOULD I
KNOW MORE ABOUT
MYSELF?
DEFINITIONS OF “SELF”
 is the union of these elements

Identity
Body constitutes your physical
of a
attributes, your health and and
person
your posture andd poise
makes up your character or
personality and essentially
the way you think and how you distnguishes you from others
perceive things around you
Though affect how you feel about them Sensations
ts and bring about sensations. that
constitutes
individuality
you experience prompt you to
act and behave the way you Feelings
do or
Emotions
 “If you know the
enemy and know
yourself you need
not fear the results
of a hundred
battles”
- Sun Tzu
KNOWING ONESELF
must grow with deeper understanding of what
makes you happy, how you relate with your
surroundings, give importance to your strengths
, limitations and even your soft spots.

takes a lot of get acquainted with

courage and people that inspire and
guts motivate you to do
it takes mindful better
effort and a lot tasks and jobs you can
of time doing it and cannot do must be
known to you
doesn't happen
in an instant
KNOWING ONESELF
Discovering yourself is about something
much greater and of higher significance. It is
understanding who you are at your core, what
most concerns you, what makes you come
energetic, what nourishes your soul and what
exhausts your spirit, and how to know the
distinction so you decides well as you go further
in life.
 PERSONALITY
 Is
referred to as the set of behaviors,
feelings, thoughts and motives that
identifies an individual.

 Anessence of who we are and is the

embodiment of one’s physical,
psychological , cognitive and affective
and spiritual self.

 Therefore,
when we speak of the
“SELF”, we will describe it in personality
 Strengths
Knowing your capacity to
strengths you will establish mature
be more empowered relationship with
to do developmental others, emotional
tasks. independence and
ability to
equippd with skills demostarte
Analyze complex
responsible
essential in making
situations logically
behaviors.
wise decisions in
and sensibly.
life.
More competent in More Confident in
achieveing your doing your tasks
goals
STRENGTHS AND
LIMITATIONS
Action-oriented Adventurous
Analytical Artistic Athletic
Personal Strength
Authenti Caring Clever
is what you do best c
Compassionat Charming Creativ
e e
and where your Communicativ Curious Precise
e
genuine talents are, Determined , Focused, Good-
Confident, looking,
concentrate on Disciplined, Helping,
Educated, Inspiring,
Empathetic, Intelligent,
using that strength Emotional Leadership,
Intelligent, Learning,
to the fullest if you Energetic, Motivated,
Entertaining, Optimistic,
want to live Fast, Flexible, Open-minded,
Social, Organized,
comfortable life. Wisdom, Outgoing,
Warm, Responsible,
 limitations
Find ways to
enhance your
capabilities
Becoming more
aware of your
weaknesses is not
the end goal of self-
development; develop positive
rather, a starting atittudes dealing
point. with life's
challenges.
STRENGTHS AND
LIMITATIONS
Aggressi Impulsive
Limitations ve
Arrogant Indiffere
are those attributes that Bossy nt
Insensitiv
e
you will have difficulty in Chaotic Irresponsibl
Close- e
doing. Letting other Lazy
minded
Complainin Moody
people identify your g
Controllin Passive
g
personal limitations is Cynical Naive
Fearful Negative
better than identifying
Greedy Rude
them on your own. Hesitant Selfish
Everybody has Ignorant Vague
Impatient
limitations, humans are Stubborn
 Introspection
Self-awareness starts with assessing yourslef.
Introspection is your ability to reflect and think
about your own thoughts, feelings, and actions,
is essential in understanding and improving
yourself.
Also, you have to listen and accept positively
feedback you get from others, as well as their
opinions about you.

Feedbacks : POSITIVE AND CRITICISM

Writing a journal is one way of helping you

introspect
INFLUENCES

Nature Nurture
 Heredity • Environment
 Genetic make-up • acquired
 From the surrounding
developmeny in • habits/ routines
the womb of a • practices of
mother atittudes
• observed
behaiviors
It is always a complex combination
of genes, environmental exposure
and experiences, and cultural
 SELF-ACTUALIZATION

 refers to the achievement of your

potential through creativity,
independence, and an understanding of
the real world.

A person's motivation to reach his or her

full potential
 SUMMARY
 SELF can be defined in different ways:
philosophical, psychological, spiritual and also in
thoughts, actions and behavior.
 SELF is the union of elements: body, thoughts,

feelings or emotions and sensations that

constitutes the individuality and identity of a
person.

 Personality is the unique and enduring set of

behaviors, feelings, thoughts , motives and
attitudes that charaterize a person.

 Both Nature (heredity or genetic) and Nurture

( Environment) influence the development of
 PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

Personal effectiveness means making use of all the

personal resources – talents, skills, energy and time,
to enable you to achieve life goals.

Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage

yourself impacts directly on your personal
effectiveness.

Being self-aware, making the most of your

strengths, learning new skills and techniques and
behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving your
personal performance.
Skills also determine whether real actions are
performed in accordance with the plan. If the same
ability is used many times in the same situation,
then it becomes a habit that runs automatically,
subconsciously.
Here are some skills that will greatly increase the
efficiency of any person who owns them:
1.Determination
2.Self-confidence
3.Persistence
4.Managing stress
5.Problem solving skills
6.Creativity
7.Generating ideas
1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on
achieving a specific goal without being distracted
by less important things or spontaneous desires. It
may be developed with the help of self-discipline
exercise.
2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of
personal development, as a result of getting aware
of yourself, your actions and their consequences.
Self-confidence is manifested in speech,
appearance, dressing, gait, and physical condition.
To develop it, you need to learn yourself and your
capabilities, gain positive attitude and believe that
by performing right actions and achieving right
goals you will certainly reach success.
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward
regardless of emerging obstacles – problems,
laziness, bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the
costs of overcoming obstacles. It can also be
developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.

4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that

arises in daily life from the environment and other
people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an
unknown situation when a lack of information
creates the risk of negative consequences of your
actions. It increases efficiency in the actively
changing environment.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with
the problems encountered with a lack of
experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new
ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new
experience.

6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary

ways to carry out a specific action that no one has
tried to use. It can lead to a decrease or an increase
of costs, but usually the speed of action is greatly
increased when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve
goals using new, original, unconventional
ideas. Idea is a mental image of an object
formed by the human mind, which can be
changed before being implemented in the
real world. For generating ideas you can use
a method of mental maps, which allows you
to materialize, visualize and scrutinize all
your ideas, which in turn contributes to the
emergence of new ideas. These are just
some, but the most important personal
effectiveness skills which make the
achievement of any goal easier and less
costly.
 YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR
FUTURE

There are three kinds of people in this world:

The first is the Moviegoer. This person

watches the movie of their lives, admires
some parts and criticizes others. Aside from
that, they do nothing else. All she says the
whole day is, “I like this thing and but I don’t
like that thing.” The Moviegoer feels she has
absolutely no control of their lives --- except
to comment about it. Moviegoers are the
most pathetic, miserable people in the world.
The second is the Actor. This person does
not only watch the movie of her life. She
actually realizes she’s the Actor – and can
control a big part of her life. She can actually
make or break the movie – by how well she
delivers her lines and how she portrays her
character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing
they’re the start of the show and enjoy some
level of control. But many times, they wish
the movie would end in another way – but
realize that they have no say in such things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This
person does not only watch, and she
doesn’t only act, but she actually
creates the entire movie from her
mind. She determines what she will
say, what she will do, and how the
movie will end. She realizes she has
enormous control over her life, and
sees to it that the movie of her life will
turn out beautiful.
A REAL WINNER is the one who is able to:
 win over his/her battles and difficulties in life and

turns them into a learning and glorifying

experience;
 find meaning in pleasant and unpleasant events in

his life;
 live in peace with difficult people and difficult

situations;
 win the goodwill of others, their respect and

admiration;
 get what he wants using win-win strategies; never

at the expense of others;

 discover and use opportunities to his best

advantage;
 develop and use his talents and abilities to the best

advantage and in so doing, make meaningful

 DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES IN MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE

Developmental Stage characteristics

1. Pre-natal (Conception to birth) Age when hereditary endowments and
sex are fixed and all body features, both
external and internal are developed.

2. Infancy (Birth to 2 years) Foundation age when basic behavior are

organized and may
ontogenetic maturation skills are developed.

3.Early Childhood (2 to 6 years) Pre- gang age, exploratory, and questioning language
and elementary reasoning are
acquired and initial socialization is experienced.

4.Late Childhood (6 to 12 years) Gang and creativity age when self- help skills, social
skills, school skills and play are
developed.

5.Adolescence (puberty to 18 years) Transition age from childhood to adulthood when sex
maturation and rapid physical development occur
resulting to changes in ways of feeling, thinking and
acting.
6.Early Adulthood (18 t040 years) Age of adjustment to new
patterns of life and roles such as
spouse, parent and bread winner.

7.Middle Age (40 to retirement) Transition age when adjustments

to initial physical and mental
decline are experienced.

8.Old Age (Retirement to Death) Retirement age when

increasingly rapid physical and mental
decline are experienced.
The Challenges of Middle and Late Adolescence

Physical Development
 Most girls have completed the physical changes

related to puberty by age 15.

 Boys are still maturing and gaining strength,

muscle mass, and height and are completing the

development of sexual traits.
 Emotional Development
 May stress over school and test scores.

 Is self-involved (may have high expectations and

low self-concept).
 Seeks privacy and time alone

 Is concerned about physical and sexual

attractiveness.
 May complain that parents prevent him or her from

doing things independently.

 Starts to want both physical and emotional

intimacy in relationships.
 The experience of intimate partnerships
 Social Development
 Shifts in relationship with parents from dependency

and subordination to one that reflects the adolescent’s

increasing maturity and responsibilities in the family
and the community,
 Is more and more aware of social behaviors of friends.

 Seeks friends that share the same beliefs, values, and

interests.
 Friends become more important.

 Starts to have more intellectual interests.

 Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others.

 May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors

(alcohol, tobacco, sex).

 Causes and Effects of Stress
Just as there is great variety in the range of emotions you might
experience, there are many possible manifestations of stress – in your
private life and in your working life. Here are some words that describe
the emotions associated (as cause and effect) with stress.
 Anxiety

 Pressure

 Misery

 Strain

 Desperation

 Tension

 Anger

 Panic

 Dejection

Prolonged stress can be devastating; burnout, breakdown, and

depression are some of the potential results of long-term, unmanaged
stress. By wearing a mask, you may expect to hide stress caused by
problems in your personal life and not let them influence your
performance on the job. This will probably not work. The more you try to
hold your emotions in, the greater the pressure build-up will be.
 A COMMON CAUSE OF STRESS IS DEALING WITH LIFE’S
TRANSITIONS

 being late playing on a sports team

 too much homework not being included in a sports
team
 speaking in public
losing something valuable
 babysitting
parents fighting
 going to the dentist getting detention
 arguments with your job
friends taking tests
 restrictions at home video games
 chores using a computer
closed-in spaces
 lack of sleep
commercials
 no date for a dance interruptions while busy
 pimples getting an injection
 physical education arguments with parents
class fight with boyfriend/girlfriend
 math class losing
 English class
careless drivers
 other class
slow drivers
 boredom loud people
 rude people baby crying
 no money disrespectful children
 headaches
 smoking

grinding hair
mood
changes
nightmares


stomach panic attacks

aches
 lack of anxiety
concentration
 nail biting ulcer sores on mouth
anger

use of alcohol
dizziness jaw pains
 tapping irritability of medication
 back pain
 pulling hair
 neck stiffness
 use
weight loss
crying putting things off
 compulsive dieting excessive sleeping
 racing thoughts caring about
weight gain chewing


thoughts of suicide not



hair overeating physical


loss of appetite appearance
twitches (eyelids, face)
depression
inability to sleep
compulsive
 nervous laughter


weakness aggressiveness
 pacing
 nausea
skin problems learning
constant fatigue
 indigestion

cold hands or feet
confusion excessive sweating
 chest pains
 feelings of helplessness
lateness high blood pressure
 restlessness rapid or difficult breathing
Developmental Stage characteristics
1. _____________Conception to birth) Age when hereditary endowments and
sex are fixed and all body features, both
external and internal are developed.

2. _____________(Birth to 2 years) Foundation age when basic behavior are

organized and may
ontogenetic maturation skills are developed.

3._____________(2 to 6 years) Pre- gang age, exploratory, and questioning language

and elementary reasoning are
acquired and initial socialization is experienced.

4._______________(6 to 12 years) Gang and creativity age when self- help skills, social
skills, school skills and play are
developed.

5. ____________(puberty to 18 years) Transition age from childhood to adulthood when sex

maturation and rapid physical development occur
resulting to changes in ways of feeling, thinking and
acting.
6.Early Adulthood (___________) Age of adjustment to new
patterns of life and roles such as
spouse, parent and bread winner.

7.Middle Age (____________) Transition age when adjustments

to initial physical and mental
decline are experienced.

8.Old Age (_______________) Retirement age when

increasingly rapid physical and mental
decline are experienced.