MODULE 4:

THE CHALLENGES OF
MIDDLE AND LATE
ADOLESCENCE
 Objectives:
At the end of this lesson, you will be able to:
1. discuss how facing the challenges during
adolescence, you may able to clarify and manage the demands
of teen years,

2. express your feelings on the expectations of the

significant people around you, such as your parents, siblings,
friends, teachers, community leaders, and

3. make affirmations that help you become more

lovable and capable as an adolescent.
 BIG QUESTION:
HOW CAN YOU, AS AN
ADOLESCENT, BALANCE THE
EXPECTATIONS OF SIGNIFICANT
PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE AND YOUR
PERSONAL ASPIRATIONS?
THE PASSAGE TO
ADULTHOOD:
ADULTHOOD
-The period in the human lifespan in which full physical
and intellectual maturity have been attained.

-Adulthood is commonly thought of as beginning at age

20 or 21 years. Middle age, commencing at about 40
years, is followed by old age at about 60 years.
 CHALLENGES OF LATE
ADOLESCENCE:
Physical Development Mental Development
-Most girls have completed the -Becomes better able to set
physical changes related to goals and think in terms of the
puberty by age 15. future.
- Boys are still maturing and -Has a better understanding of
gaining strength, muscle mass, complex problems and issues.
and height and are completing
the development of sexual -Starts to develop moral ideals
traits. and to select role models.
 Emotional Development
-May stress over school and test scores.
-Is self-involved (may have high expectations and low self-
concept).
-Seeks privacy and time alone.
-Is concerned about physical and sexual attractiveness.
-May complain that parents prevent him or her from doing things
independently.
-Starts to want both physical and emotional intimacy in
relationships.
-The experience of intimate partnerships.
 Social Development
-Shifts in relationship with parents from dependency and
subordination to one that reflects the adolescent’s increasing
maturity and responsibilities in the family and the community
-Is more and more aware of social behaviors of friends.
-Seeks friends that share the same beliefs, values, and
interests.
-Friends become more important.
-Starts to have more intellectual interests.
-Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others.
-May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol,
tobacco, sex).
ACTIVITY
TIME!!!
Role Play on Challenges of Middle Adolescenc

1.Plan a role play on a specific situation in which a

developmental challenge of middle adolescence is seen in your
everyday living.

2. Practice your role play with your group mates.

3. Perform your role play in class.

ENER
GIZER
 ENCOURAGEMENT
101: The Courage to Be Imperfect by Timothy
D. Evans, Ph.D.
ENCOURAGEMENT
-It is the key ingredient for improving your
relationships with others.
-It is the most important skill necessary for getting
along with others, so important that the lack of it could
be considered the primary cause of conflict and
misbehaviour.

-develops a person’s psychological hardiness and

social interest
-is the lifeblood of a relationship. And yet, this
simple concept is often very hard to put into practice.
ENCOURAGEMENT
-is not a new idea, its spiritual connotation dates
back to the Bible in Hebrews 3:11 which states
“Encourage one another daily.”
-Encouragement, as a psychological idea, was
developed by psychiatrist Alfred Adler in the early
20th century and continued to evolve through the
work of Adler’s follower Rudolph Dreikurs.
-However, even today, relatively few educators,
parents, psychologists, leaders or couples have
utilized this valuable concept. Most of the time, people
mistakenly use a technique like praise in an effort to
“encourage” others.
ENCOURAGEMENT
-Half the job of encouragement lies in avoiding
discouraging words and actions. When children or
adults misbehave, it is usually because they are
discouraged. Instead of building them up, we tear
them down; instead of recognizing their efforts and
improvements, we point out mistakes; instead of
allowing them to belong through shared decision-
making and meaningful contributions, we isolate and
label them.
ENCOURAGEMENT
-Most of us are skilled discouragers. We have
learned how to bribe, reward and, when that fails, to
punish, criticize, nag, threaten, interrogate and
emotionally withdraw. We do this as an attempt to
control those we love, bolstered by the mistaken
belief that we are responsible for the behavior of
everyone around us, especially our spouses and
children. These attempts to control behavior create
atmospheres of tension and conflict in many houses.
 Most commonly,
we discourage in five general ways:
• We set standards that are too high for others to meet
because we are overly ambitious.
• We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate change or
improved behavior.
• We make constant comparisons (self to others, siblings
to
one another).
• We automatically give a negative spin to the actions of
others.
• We dominate others by being overly helpful, implying
that
they are unable to do it as well.
ENCOURAGEMENT
-is neither a technique nor a special language used
to gain compliance. It conveys the idea that all
human beings are worthwhile, simply because they
exist.
-It develops children’s psychological hardiness --
their ability to function and recover when things
aren’t going their way. enhances a feeling of
belonging which leads to greater social interest.
Social Interest
-is the tendency for people to unite
themselves with other human beings and to
accomplish their tasks in cooperation with
others.
-The Junior League mission of “developing the
potential of women and improving communities
through the effective action and leadership of
trained volunteers” is rooted in the idea of
social interest.
 The first step to becoming an
encouraging person is to learn to
distinguish encouragement from
discouragement.

As a rule, ask yourself:

Whatever I say or do, will it bring me
closer together or farther apart from this
person?

We all have the power to be more

THE POWER OF PERSONAL
DECLARATIONS
by Dr. Emily De Carlo

So often we accept the declarations that others have

made concerning our own lives, well-being or fate.
It is imperative that we recognize that in order to achieve
what we want in life, we must not give our power away to
others by accepting their declarations concerning our affairs.

When one decides that he or she will boldly declare

good fortune, wellness, joy, etc. relative to his or her life,
all of heaven will break loose! Goodness and mercy shall
surely follow.
THE POWER OF PERSONAL
DECLARATIONS
From birth, we are often told what we are going to be.
Sometimes, this is a good thing, but suppose you have been
told time and time again that.

This is a dangerous declaration because it sets into motion

the actualization of an unwanted occurrence. All of us want
to amount to something.
THE POWER OF PERSONAL
DECLARATIONS
In order to counteract this and all of the negative
declarations with their destructive potential, one
must consciously replace them with one's own
declarations. In so doing, you are now in control of
setting into action what you really want to occur. You
can declare that goodness and mercy shall surely
follow you all the days of your life!
The following are some declarations that you may want to make
concerning your life:

I declare:
that I am totally free of all addictions.
that I will survive any attempts of others to
control my life.
that I am free in my mind, body, and emotions.
that I am free to set goals and reach them.
that I am a loving individual with the capacity to
give love.
that I am a child of God with all rights and
privileges thereof.
 I declare:
that I will be an ambassador of goodwill to all I
meet on the journey.
that I will be a good example for others to follow.
that I will help all that I can to reach their goals.
that I will speak words of encouragement to
others.
that I will find the goodness in life and focus on it.
that I will not succumb to the negative influences
of others.
that I will read the information that will
encourage my personal, and spiritual growth.
THE POWER OF PERSONAL
DECLARATIONS
You now have the authority to plant the seeds of love,
encouragement and victory in your garden, thereby
crowding out the weeds of negativity that may already have
taken root
Sometimes, the negative comments and declarations of
others have taken such a stronghold in our lives, that we
must persist until we see the bough not only fall, but break
into pieces. Don't be discouraged if you don't reach your
goals overnight.
Just remember that even a small stream of water will
crack concrete eventually!!
BEING HAPPY
 BEING HAPPY:
-is finding strength in forgiveness, hope in one’s battles,
security at the stage of fear, love in disagreements.

-is not only to treasure the smile, but that you also reflect
on the sadness. It is not just commemorating the event, but
also learning lessons in failures. It is not just having joy with
the applause, but also having joy in anonymity.

-is to recognize that it is worthwhile to live, despite all the

challenges, misunderstandings and times of crises.
 BEING HAPPY:
-It is not only to cross the deserts outside of ourselves, but
still more, to be able to find an oasis in the recesses of our
soul. It is to thank God every morning for the miracle of life.

-is not being afraid of one's feelings. It is to know how to

talk about ourselves. It is to bear with courage when hearing
a "no". It is to have the security to receive criticism, even if is
unfair. It is to kiss the children, pamper the parents, have
poetic moments with friends, even if they have hurt us.
 BEING HAPPY:
-means allowing the free, happy and simple child
inside each of us to live; having the maturity to say, "I
was wrong"; having the audacity to say, "forgive me". It
is to have sensitivity in expressing, "I need you"; to
have the ability of saying, "I love you." So that your life
becomes a garden full of opportunities for being
happy...
BEING HAPPY:
-is not inevitable fate, but a victory for those who can
travel towards it with your own being.

-is to stop being a victim of problems but become an actor

in history itself. It is not only to cross the deserts outside of
ourselves, but still more, to be able to find an oasis in the
recesses of our soul. It is to thank God every morning for the
miracle of life.

-is to stop being a victim of problems but become an actor

in history itself.
BEING HAPPY:
◦You may have defects, be anxious and sometimes live
irritated, but do not forget that your life is the greatest
enterprise in the world. Only you can prevent it from going
into decadence. There are many that need you, admire you
and love you.

◦I would like to remind you that being happy is not having a

sky without storms, or roads without accidents, or work
without fatigue, or relationships without disappointments.
 BEING HAPPY
You will find that happiness is not about having a
perfect life but about using tears to water tolerance,
losses to refine patience, failures to carve serenity,
pain to lapidate pleasure, obstacles to open the
windows of intelligence.
Never give up ... Never give up on the people you love.
Never give up from being happy because life is an incredible
show. And you are a special human being!
 On your own understanding,
what is the message of this quote all about?

“Successful people are always looking for

opportunities to help others.
Unsuccessful people are always asking:
“What’s in it for me?”

– Brian Tracy