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Essays

Essays on TV, film, books, bodies, art, culture, feminism, and lots more, all in one place. Personal essays are for paid subscribers.

Beyond heteropessimism

A useful academic term about heterosexuality has entered the zeitgeist. Many are using it as an excuse to reject women's complaints.

Sep 25, 2025 • Amanda Montei

Girl, stop apologizing

Divorce is not a tragedy

Dec 18, 2025 • Amanda Montei

Stop covering for the husbands

Lying about the problems of heterosexuality is not love, actually— it's bad, actually.

Dec 4, 2025 • Amanda Montei

How overfunctioning keeps mothers trapped at home

Releasing yourself from the gendered pressure to do it all in the private sphere at the expense of who you might be outside of it.

Nov 20, 2025 • Amanda Montei

Did men ruin everything?

Thoughts on Fathers who refuse to father

Nov 13, 2025 • Amanda Montei

Is having a husband embarrassing now?

Women rejecting traditional partnership is not a rejection of love.

Nov 5, 2025 • Amanda Montei

She’s crazy, he’s incompetent

In 'Oh, Hi!' a mad woman and a 'soft boy' are a surprisingly perfect match for overcoming heterofatalism.

Oct 16, 2025 • Amanda Montei

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