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Some Quick Communication Tips

The document provides communication tips for effective dialogue in relationships, emphasizing the importance of listening, using 'I' language, and avoiding interruptions. It encourages honesty, respect, and observation of non-verbal cues while addressing conflicts with sincerity and avoiding accusations. Additionally, it suggests using a 'STOP' technique to manage strong emotions and promotes forgiveness and kindness between partners.

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Some Quick Communication Tips

The document provides communication tips for effective dialogue in relationships, emphasizing the importance of listening, using 'I' language, and avoiding interruptions. It encourages honesty, respect, and observation of non-verbal cues while addressing conflicts with sincerity and avoiding accusations. Additionally, it suggests using a 'STOP' technique to manage strong emotions and promotes forgiveness and kindness between partners.

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Some quick communication tips:

Do not talk at the same time – listen! Do not interrupt each other. Constant interruption is
stating you do not think the other person has anything important to say and that you just want your way.
The reason for the conversation is to hear each other’s point of view. Resist the urge to interrupt.

Use I language and feeling words – feelings that are underneath the reaction (under the anger
for example), ‘I feel really hurt when you….” Always associate / attach to feelings.
Think before you speak, or you will regret it – you know this….

If talking in person is just impossible, try written communication (letter on paper not online).
One of the things that will terminate effective communication is name calling or bringing up something
that happened a long time ago. Especially, a situation that was resolved or forgiven.

Please try to avoid the words “you” and “you always,” or “you never”.

Only use Facts - A general rule among long time married couples is, you can ask about it but if you can’t
prove it then you must let it go. In other words, if there is no proof, don’t bring it to the table. Suspicion
is one thing but to accuse someone of it, is another matter. It’s normal to be a little jealous when it
comes to the love of your life, but it is not normal to express it every time you feel it.

Participate with sincerity and honesty - Communicate with transparency and honesty. Ask
questions for clarity.

Observation – body language, what is not being said? One way to communicate is to hear what your
partner is not saying. Two people in a relationship get to learn each other’s fears, goals, values, and
dreams (share that with one another). When your spouse is speaking, looking at him or her in the eyes
means your partner has your undivided attention. Leaning forward means you are interested in what
they are saying, diverting eye contact is an indication of dishonesty or being disingenuous.

Respect - Couples who learn to solve problems together are the most successful. Every problem
will not be solvable because you and your partner are individuals who will have different opinions from
time to time. Realize the relationship is bigger than any problem.
Use times of calm to prepare for times of crisis. So, use this language even when all is well :)

SECOND THING TO DO:


Use the STOP sign, when you start to have really strong feelings such as feeling hurt, angry or
frustrated. Stop what you are doing or thinking Ask yourself is my interpretation accurate? Is
my partner actually ‘ignoring me, blaming me, upset with me’ OR is it possible that I am feeling sensitive
or vulnerable – is it possible that he/she is having a bad day and it has nothing to do with what I said or
did, but more about how they are interpreting it. Take breaks and walk away with a plan to come back
to talk about whatever it is you need to.

Lastly – participate in forgiveness and kindness to yourself and each other.

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