WELCOME TO THE
MEETING
Welcome to the _____ meeting of Beyond
Shame & Silence.
My name is __________ and I am a recovering sex
and love addict/anorexic, and the chair person
for this meeting.
WELCOME TO THE
MEETING
We are a closed meeting, open to all fellows of
SLAA seeking supportive, solution first recovery.
All are invited to stay after the meeting to ask any
questions about sex and love addiction or the
program.
We encourage all members to have their camera
on however, anxiety, illness, or just the daily
struggle of life can sometimes make that difficult.
Please make yourself comfortable.
WELCOME TO THE
MEETING
We also ask members to be mindful to wear
appropriate attire as if we were at an in-person
meeting. Please also refrain from any multitasking
on camera such as eating, smoking, and moving
around. If you need to do any of these things,
please turn off your camera until you are done.
WELCOME TO THE
MEETING
Please unmute and join me in the us/we version of
the Serenity Prayer, using the word God as you
understand Them, after a moment of silence to
remember the still suffering addicts both inside &
outside of these rooms.
HIGHER POWER,
GRANT US THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE
THINGS WE CANNOT CHANGE
COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN
AND WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
THY WILL, NOT MINE BE DONE
Please remute your microphones.
We will now read the SLAA Preamble. May I
please have a volunteer read?
Screenshare:
THE S.L.A.A. PREAMBLE
We now read The 12 Characteristics of S.L.A.A.
May I please have a volunteer read?
Screenshare:
CHARACTERISTICS OF SEX
AND LOVE ADDICTION
We will now read the 12 Steps of S.L.A.A. May I
please have a volunteer read?
Screenshare:
THE TWELVE STEPS OF S.L.A.A.
We will now read the Twelve of Traditions of
S.L.A.A. May I please have a volunteer read?
Screenshare:
THE TWELVE TRADITIONS OF
S.L.A.A.
Welcome Newcomers & those Back from a Slip or
Relapse. We welcome you all to our meeting and
especially anyone new to S.L.A.A.
This is a closed meeting of S.L.A.A. Closed
meetings are for S.L.A.A. members or for those
who have a desire to stop living out a pattern of
sex and love addiction and/or anorexia. If you are
new, we encourage you to attend at least 6
meetings if you feel unsure about whether
S.L.A.A. is for you.
Are there any newcomers in attendance within
their first thirty days in S.L.A.A. who would like to
introduce themselves? This is not to embarrass
you, but to give you the same warm welcome we
received when we were new. Please unmute to
briefly say hello.
You will also have the opportunity to share later
during sharing time, if you wish.
In this meeting we will read from _______ for up
to 15 minutes followed by sharing time.
May we please have a volunteer be our spiritual
timekeeper for this meeting?
Thank you __________, please keep time by using
the Zoom Timing App for 15 minutes. If we have
not finished the reading after 15 minutes we will
pause at a logical ending before sharing time.
Will someone begin reading? Please read three
paragraphs and pass.
Daily Meeting Resources
Journal Daily Healthy Sober
Reading Toplines Relationships Dating
Anorexia State of
Neurodiversity and
Mental Health Steps Grace
It is now sharing time. Please raise your virtual
hand if you’d like to share during this meeting.
When sharing, please keep in mind:
Refrain from crosstalk which is defined as
commenting upon, interrupting or giving
advice to another person. This includes
messaging members during the meeting. You
can however comment on the reading. Please
message a co-host privately if you feel that
cross-talk has occurred.
Refrain from vulgar, explicit and excessive
references to sexual practices however, it’s
important that we share as candidly and
openly as possible. Please use the language of
program to keep the room safe.
When sharing, please feel free to identify with
the reading, or:
Reflect on how the 12 Steps/Traditions are
being used in your personal recovery from sex
and love addiction / anorexia.
“Get current”, which is defined as expressing
the sexual or emotional situations which
appear to pose the major threats, in the here
and now, to maintaining sobriety.
We have found that sharing our experience,
strength, and hope, is indispensable for our
recoveries.
If at any point you feel a share has violated these
principles, please message the host or co-hosts so
that we may know you are having a difficult time.
We will reread these guidelines and post them in
the chat to recenter and focus.
Thank you, _________, for your time-keeping
service. Would you like to continue doing
service of keeping time for the shares?
The timekeeper will time for 3 minute shares
with a reminder at 1 minute. Please
acknowledge __________’s 1 minute warning
and wrap up when 3 minutes has ended.
PERSONAL SHARES
STOP SCREEN SHARE DURING
SHARING TIME
This brings us to the end of sharing. Thank you
all for your vulnerability and openness. If you
did not get a chance to share, or would like to
ask questions, talk or exchange contact
information, please stay for fellowship after
the meeting.
We will now read the 12 Signs of Recovery. May I
please have a volunteer read?
Screen Share:
THE SLAA SIGNS OF RECOVERY
We will now read the 12 Promises of Recovery.
May I please have a volunteer read?
Screen Share:
The 12 Promises of SLAA
The 7th Tradition states “Every S.L.A.A. group ought
to be fully self-supporting, declining outside
contributions.” The links being posted now are for
our outreach groups, email, and our 7th Tradition
link.
A link for the S.L.A.A. FWS bi-monthly magazine ,
The Journal, a valuable resource between meetings
will be placed in the chat. Please donate to the
running of this meeting when it is COMFORTABLE
for you to do so. Self-care must take priority.
Are there any other S.L.A.A. related announcements?
Share Your Gift of Service!
Service is the heartbeat of our community!
By sharing your time, talents, and love, you'll not
only enhance the lives of others but also deepen
your own recovery!
Service keeps us Sober !
Join our service team and discover the joy of giving
back! A link to our WhatsApp Group is in the chat
where you may connect with us to discuss service
opportunities.
The opinions expressed here belong only to
those who shared them. They do not reflect the
thoughts or opinions of S.L.A.A. as a whole.
Talk to each other, reason things out with
someone else, but let there be no gossip or
criticism of one another. Instead, let the
understanding, love, and peace of the program
grow in you one day at a time.
A message about 13th Stepping – 13th stepping
is manipulating another person in recovery,
especially a newcomer, into a sexual, emotional,
or romantic relationship. This behavior is
wholeheartedly discouraged in S.L.A.A.
The chat is now open to exchange contact
information. Please include whom is safe for
you to connect with and if you are looking for a
Sponsor or are available to Sponsor.
We will now close with the We version of the
serenity prayer. Will all those who would like to
please unmute and join me:
HIGHER POWER,
GRANT US THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE
THINGS WE CANNOT CHANGE
COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN
AND WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
THY WILL, NOT MINE BE DONE
Keep Coming Back!
It works if you work it,
so work it,
you're worth it!
Who you see here,
what you hear here,
when you leave here
let it stay here.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
We dedicate the first 10 minutes of fellowship to
newcomer/general questions. Any member can
ask a question. We encourage you to use the
“raised hand” function in the reactions panel.
Questions can also be asked and answered in
the chat. Members who would like to offer
feedback will be called on in order. We ask that
members follow the feedback guidelines when
giving feedback in order to offer a safe space
that honors our Traditions.
NEVER GIVE UNSOLICITED FEEDBACK
Feedback should only be given with the permission
of the fellow receiving it. Always respect our
recovery family's wishes. We are not here to offer
advice or solve each other’s problems. We can share
based on our personal experience, strength and
hope but never tell one another what to do.
We will now hold space for first time shares that did
not get to share during the meeting time; followed
by second shares. Please raise your virtual hand to
share.
Please try to limit your share to 3 minutes.
