SELF-

UNDERSTANDIN
G AND
 Why is it important to have a good self-
concept, and how is it achieved?

When your self-concept

improves, your personality
and performance improves.
 Positive Self-Concept

Having a positive self-concept is the most

important factor toward success.
 By believing in yourself, you will gain the
respect of your peers.
 As a leader, to gain the respect of others, you
must first be able to prove worthiness to
yourself.
 A positive self-concept
has rewards
 More confidence
 Trust in ideas, skills, knowledge
 The ability to benefit from opportunities
 Using mistakes as a learning experience
 Being a more lively and interesting person
 Becoming more focused on bigger goals
 A positive self-concept has
rewards
Being more emotionally secure
The ability to control your personal future-
creating circumstances instead of following
circumstances
The ability to cope with success
A positive feeling for others
Being able to handle challenges
 Positive Self-concept and
Conceit
There is a difference, conceit is the excessive
feeling of one’s own worth.
The primary difference is the excess in conceit.
A conceited person is boastful and arrogant.
A person with a positive self-concept does not
brag or voice his or her own personal self-
satisfaction of his or her worth.
 Development of self-concept

 Thereare three types of factors that affect the

development of self-concept:
Chronological
External
Internal
 Chronological development

 Chronological
development of self-concept can be divided into
three segments:
Childhood
Adolescence
Adult
 Chronological
development
The self-concept formed in childhood lays the
foundation for your attitudes toward work, future
success, and abilities.
Parents do not actually teach self-concept, but
they mold and shape it through positive or
negative actions.
 Adolescence
development
 Involves comparing yourself to others as you mature.
 Typically,
you become less happy with who you are.
Often, you wish to be like others.
 Mediaplays a big role in the self-perception of
adolescents.
 Television
and movie characters often portray unreal
images to adolescents.
 Adolescence
development
Ages 12-18 are critical years in the
development of self-concept because
adolescents are also dealing with:
physical change
peer group relationships
confusing identity
loss of childhood
assumption of adult responsibilities
 Adulthood
When you reach adulthood, your self-concept
has been formed by past experiences.
Adults tend to define themselves in terms of
things they possess, in terms of what they do
for a living, or in terms of an internal value
system and emotional makeup.
 External factors that
affect self-concept
Family
Relationships
School
Work
Social activities
 How to develop a positive self-
concept?
Accept yourself as you are - restore and nurture
a healthy self-concept.
Have a genuine desire to change.
Create the proper environment to allow for the
desire to grow.
Establish goals – there is a direct relationship
between goals and self-concept.
Take action.
 Create the proper
environment to allow for the
desire to grow
 Attitude is a state of mind with respect to feelings,
beliefs, or outlook (positive or negative) on an event.
 As the attitude stays positive, desire can be maintained.
 Be aware of attitudes of those with whom you associate.
 You determine your own attitude.
 Six primary characteristics of people
with a positive self-concept.
 They have a positive orientation – “Falling down doesn’t mean
failure, staying down does”
 They are able to cope with life’s problems
 They are able to deal with emotions.
 They are able to help others and accept help themselves.
 They are able to accept people as individuals
 They are able to exhibit a variety of self-confident behaviors.
 How can leaders increase
the self-concept of others?
 By raising your own self-esteem, you increase the level
of others around you.
 Give people opportunities to practice self-responsibility.
 Praise in public and correct in private.
 Stretch people, assigning tasks slightly beyond their
known capabilities.
 Encourage people to view problems as “challenges and
opportunities.”
 Personal Effectiveness
Making use of all the personal
resources – talents, skills, energy and
time, to enable you to achieve life
goals.
 Talents are needed to be identified and then developed to be used
in a particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics,
etc.).
 Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the
process of cognitive and practical activities.
 Skills
also determine whether real actions are performed in
accordance with the plan. If the same ability is used many times in
the same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs
automatically, subconsciously.
 3 Kinds of People
Moviegoer
Actor
Scriptwriter
 BO SANCHEZ says:
Moviegoer - This person watches the movie
of their lives, admires some parts and criticizes
others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All
she says the whole day is, “I like this thing and
but I don’t like that thing.” The Moviegoer feels
she has absolutely no control of their lives ---
except to comment about it.
Actor - This person does not only watch the movie of her
life. She actually realizes she’s the Actor – and can control a
big part of her life. She can actually make or break the
movie – by how well she delivers her lines and how she
portrays her character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing
they’re the start of the show and enjoy some level of control.
But many times, they wish the movie would end in another
way – but realize that they have no say in such things.
Scriptwriter - This person does not only
watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she actually
creates the entire movie from her mind. She
determines what she will say, what she will do,
and how the movie will end. She realizes she has
enormous control over her life, and sees to it
that the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.
 HOLISTIC
DEVELOPMENT
Explain:

One cannot
have everything
 ASPECTS OF THE SELF

They are the:

physical or tangible aspects
intellectual and conscious aspects
intuitive aspects as they relate to the spirit
What the mind believes, the
body manifests or acts on,
and the emotions feel, or
respond with.
 Managing feelings is like
trying to hold water in the
palm of your hand.
 1.
Physical Self: Describe yourself. Try not to censor any thoughts which
come to your mind. Include descriptions of your height, weight, facial
appearance, and quality of skin, hair and descriptions of body areas
such as your neck, chest, waist, legs.
 2.
Intellectual Self: Include here an assessment of how well you reason
and solve problems, your capacity to learn and create, your general
amount of knowledge, your specific areas of knowledge, wisdom you
have acquired, and insights you have.
 3.
Emotional Self: Write as many words or phrase about typical feelings you
have, feelings you seldom have, feelings you try to avoid, feelings you
especially enjoy, feelings from your past and present, and feelings which are
associated with each other.
 4.Sensual Self: Write how you feel as a sensual person. What sense do you use
most – sight, hearing, speaking, smelling, touching? How do you feel about the
different ways you take in information - through the eyes, ears, mouth, nose,
and skin. In what ways do you let information in and out of your body?
 5.Interactional Self: Include descriptions of your strengths and
weaknesses in intimate relationships and relationships to
friends, family, classmates and strangers in social settings.
Describe the strengths and weaknesses which your friends and
family have noticed. Describe what kind of son or daughter,
brother or sister you are.
 6.
Nutritional Self: How do you nourish yourself? What foods do
you like and dislike? What do you like and dislike about these?
7.Contextual Self: Descriptors could be in
the areas of maintenance of your living
environment: reaction to light, temperature,
space, weather, colors, sound and seasons
and your impact on the environment.
 8.
Spiritual Self or Life Force: Write words or phrases which tell
about how you feel in this area. This could include your feelings
about yourself and organized religion, reactions about your
spiritual connections to others, feelings about your spiritual
development and history, and thought about your metaphysical
self. Think about your inner peace and joy. Think about your
spiritual regimen or routine.
THE POWER TRIAD
THOUGHTS
FEELINGS
ACTIONS
 THOUGHTS
A mental reaction, how you
interpret the situation, which is
often a replay of old stuff you've
attached to as part of your identity.
 FEELINGS
An emotional reaction that results
from your interpretation, you may
feel happy, angry, sad, or
frustrated.
 ACTIONS
Based on your feelings you act in a
certain way, such as jumping for
joy, getting away as soon as
possible, or punching the other
guy's nose.
 Thoughts Influence
Feelings
After studying hard, but doing poorly
on a test, you think, “I’ll never succeed
at anything,” which leads to feeling
bad about your abilities as a student
feeling hopeless about the future.
 Feelings Influence
Thoughts
Afriend has to cancel their plans with
you because they have a family
obligation. You feel disappointed,
which prompts you to think, “Maybe
they just made up that excuse because
they don’t want to hang out with me.”
 Feelings Influence
Actions
You feel hopeless about studying for
the next exam, and dwell on your sad
feelings. You then procrastinate
studying and don’t study hard,
because you still feel so discouraged
about your last exam.
 Thoughts Influence
Actions
You begin to think badly of your friend
and recall times in the past when you
haven’t gotten along. When your friend
calls to make plans, you get even by
telling them that you have other plans
(when you really don’t).
 Actions Influence
Thoughts
Your lack of studying for the next
exam results in another poor grade.
You think, “Here we go again. I don’t
know why I even keep trying. It’s
useless. I’m a failure.”
Actions Influence Feelings
Your friend accepts your excuse and
doesn’t appear to feel bad. You spend
the day alone and convince yourself
that your friend is probably having
more fun without you. You feel lonely,
sad, and disappointed.
Your girlfriend/boyfriend tells
you that she/he needs some
“space.”
 Your best friend has been
blowing you off since he/she
got into a new relationship.
 The person you are
romantically interested in
becomes involved with
someone else.
You came to know that your
best friend has been telling
people false accusations
about you behind your back.
 Your inner voice can talk to about a lot of
trouble or it can create a positive outlook that
changes your life experience. The secret is to
stay in the moment, to stay conscious, and
spot your voice when it is replaying old tapes
and talking nonsense, when it is being
intolerant, exaggerating or over-reacting.
Don’t let your emotions overcome
your mind.
If it's not right, STOP, gather yourself
in the moment and reconsider.
 The mind is not the unitary entity it seems to us but consists
of different parts. For example in the story there are the two
wolves and the “you” that chooses between them.
 Theseparts of the mind/brain can interact and be in conflict
with each other i.e. the two wolves fight for dominance over
our mind and behavior.
The “you” has the ability to decide which wolf it will feed.
Having made a choice, “you” can decide specifically how to
“feed” or nurture the selected wolf.

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