WORKBOOK
HOW TO HEAL
CODEPENDENCY
We learned that
codependency is a
toxic and destructive
issue that centers on
the tendency of
FORSAKING
YOUR NEEDS
and
SOLELY
FOCUSING
ON THE
NEEDS OF
Unfortunately, this OTHERS.
isn’t in the Golden Rule,
treat others the way you
want to be treated kind of way.
This type of external focus
includes abandoning your personal
needs and wellbeing to serve others
as a source of energy and self-value.
KEY LESSON
TAKEAWAYS
FROM THE
CODEPENDENCY
YOUTUBE VIDEO:
The top root cause
of codependency is a dysfunctional
2nd chakra, the sexual chakra,
which relates to all relationships
with others.
We uncovered the
TOP 10 SIGNS
of codependency in relationships:
Lack of Self-Value
Since their energy and sense of self lie outside of themselves,
codependents don’t believe they’re good enough, worthy, or valuable
unless they are doing something for someone else.
Poor boundaries
Codependents have trouble saying no, may not know how to stand up for
themselves, and may have unclear boundaries between themselves
and the outside world.
A Strong Desire to Save Others
There may be a compulsive need for fulfillment by playing a “savior” or
“helper” role. As a result, codependents attract wounded people that are
looking to be saved...aka...enabled.
Suffering from Early Family Dysfunction
If childhood trauma resulted in a codependent taking on an adult role too
soon, this can negatively impact their future relationships.
Needing to Control Others
Codependents constantly rely on the external world in order to feel good.
This energy imbalance creates a need to control others to prevent
abandonment, so they are able to perpetuate the cycle and continue
to feel better about themselves.
Feeling Stress or Anxiety
Codependents can suffer from horrible anxiety when they lose control
of others, which are usually the addicted or wounded people they have
attracted. The codependent feels powerless because again, their center
of power is outside of them.
A Strong Desire to Feel Needed
A codependent feels anxious, restless, and useless when they are not
needed. Many of my codependent clients have told me that when they
feel they aren’t needed, it feels like they’re crawling out of their skin.
Fear of Abandonment
Codependent are often deathly afraid of being abandoned by others or
of being alone. Abandonment is a core fear because, without others to
take care of, the codependent does not feel fulfilled.
Feeling Angry
When a codependent believes people aren’t appreciative or grateful for
all their “help”, which isn’t given out of the kindness of their hearts.
They are merely “helping” because they rely on others for a sense of self
or worth.
Feeling Overwhelmed
Because a codependent depends on helping others to feel a sense of
value or worthiness, they tend to take on too many responsibilities and
feel overwhelmed with it all.
We discussed
simple ways to
HEAL FROM
CODEPENDENCY:
Recalling Your Power
This involves correcting your energy
dysfunction in order to reclaim the power in
your life.
Healing the Second Chakra
Here, we do the healing work necessary
to address the main energy dysfunction tied to
codependent behavior.
Grounding Yourself
Centering your power in your solar plexus
to prevent it from ever being drained again.
Establishing Self-Love
and Self-Acceptance
You can only free yourself from codependency
if you love and accept yourself and your
inherent worth and value.
Now that we’ve discovered what codependency
is and how it may be prevalent in some of our
relationships, it’s time for some healing work,
beloveds! Below, you will find a checklist of
action items for healing.
A) STEP ONE:
RECALLING YOUR POWER
ORGANIZE A CEREMONY
Light some candles, burn incense or
your herb of choice.
Play drumming or powerful music.
Write down powerful intention mantras
in your journal and repeat them.
Dance to the music’s rhythm.
Embrace your abdomen/womb to
summon your power back your 2nd
chakra.
Sit quietly with your thoughts in
meditation.
Measure how you feel as your energy
returns to you.
Journal on how you feel and your
experience.
B) STEP TWO:
HEALING THE 2ND CHAKRA
Healing the main energy Indulge in the healing of tantra,
dysfunction will help release you which teaches you to connect
from codependency. with the Divine through your
body and your sexuality in a
Find and listen to 2nd Chakra healthy way. Comfort in your
Meditations. sexual nature creates balance in
your 2nd chakra and can release
Chant by repeating the bija you from codependency.
mantra belonging to the 2nd
Chakra, which is the root sound
of VAM, pronounced
VUUMMMMM.
Express creativity in healthy
ways by channeling the 2nd
Chakra, your body’s center of
creativity. You can draw, paint,
or play music to make yourself
happy.
C) STEP THREE: D) STEP FOUR:
GROUNDING IN SELF SELF-ACCEPTANCE
After recentering yourself, Now it’s time to focus on the heart
we involve the 3rd chakra, or solar chakra which involves accepting
plexus. yourself and your inherent worth
and value.
Please review my previous video
on Grounding Yourself in the Please review my previous
Solar Plexus. video on Self-Love and Self-
Acceptance here.
HOMEWORK
Now let’s focus on some self-work
exercises! Journal on the following
prompts to further explore how
to break free from codependent
relationships for good.
1 When do I feel most ashamed, unworthy, or lonely?
a) How can I quiet the voice inside my head that tells me this?
2 At what point in my relationships do I begin to feel a deep fear that the
other person will leave me?
a) Am I sabotaging my relationships to avoid being hurt or rejected?
3 What makes me feel most insecure in my relationships?
a) How often do I feel overwhelmed by all of the things I take on? Is
it fair to feel resentment for things I choose to take on?
4 How do I feel when I don’t receive continual reassurance of love,
loyalty, and commitment from others?
a) Is there really a lack of gratitude or is it my own self-servitude?
5 Is there a pattern of unhealthy relationships in my life? Why?
6 What is the pattern/commonalities in the type of people I attract?
Am I deserving of these types of relationships?
a) What are the reasons why I deserve more?
7 Who can I find in my life to support me on this journey of healing?
a) How can I hold myself accountable?
b) What can I reward myself with for my hard work of self-focus?
8 What can I do right now to assure myself that I have a safe, secure
future of my own without anyone else?
9 What have I always wanted to do for myself that I begin the journey
of right now?
10 What is the best way for me to show self-love and acceptance?
SUMMARY
Now that you have begun
the journey of releasing
yourself from codependency,
it’s time to
BEGIN LIVING
FOR YOURSELF!
You are enough. You are valuable.
You are loved. You are lovable!
You must believe that you are enough.
You don’t need to be needed or found as
useful by someone else to be worthy of
this world. You need to start feeling for
yourself what your source feels for you!
