Republic of the Philippines
Department of Education
Region VII, Central Visayas
Division of Bohol
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
SECOND QAURTER
Quarter : 2 Week : 1 Day : 1 Activity No. : 33
Competency: : discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the
acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions (EsP-
PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1)
Objective : The learners will be able to give opinion and ideas on the different
statements of relationships
Topic : Personal Relationships
Materials :
Reference : Personal Development Teacher’s Guide - Bureau of Learning Resources
(DepEd-BLR)
Copyrights : DepEd owned
For classroom use only
Concept Notes:
The concept of “relationship” is very broad and complex. In our model, personal
relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and
interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit
from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.
Concept Notes:
Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is compelling
evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Conversely, the
health risks from being alone or isolated in one’s life are comparable to the risks associated with
cigarette smoking, blood pressure, and obesity.
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
Live longer
Deal with stress
Be healthier
Feel richer
On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health consequences, such as:
Depression
Decreased immune function
Higher blood pressure
According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard Schwartz, Social alienation is an inevitable
result of contemporary society’s preoccupation with materialsm and frantic “busy-ness”. Their
decades of research support the idea that a lack of relationships can cause multiple problems
with physical, emotional, and spiritual health. The research is clear and devastating isolation is
fatal.
Quarter : 2 Week : 1 Day : 1 Activity No. : 35
Competency: : express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment (EsP-
PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2)
Objective : To be able to write a letter in such ways to express gratitude towards a
family member
Topic : Personal Relatioships
Materials :
Reference : Personal Development Teacher’s Guide - Bureau of Learning Resources
(DepEd-BLR)
Copyrights : DepEd owned
For classroom use only
Concept Notes:
LETTER FROM MOM
Dear 14-year-old,
Right now, you are upstairs in your room thinking that life is completely and totally unfair.
When asked to clean, you roll your eyes because you have a thousand more important things to do like watch K-
dramas or check your phone.
You are sure you are being left out of something. Some party, some sleepover is happening, and you were deliberately
excluded because no one cares how you feel. You have every right in the world to be moody because life is hard.
Mostly though, life is just hard and complicated and difficult and confusing. You know what is best for you and there is
nothing more irritating than someone else (like me) presuming that they know.
You cannot reason like an adult and so it is impossible for you to understand that I am trying to help you and guide
you and not, ruin your life. This privilege I exert does not necessarily come from biology, it comes from the fact that I
have been exactly where you are, and I have been navigating this life for a lot longer than you. It is true that everyone
has a story, and everyone’s story is unique, but loss, pain, anger, confusion, and sadness are universal. These feelings
don’t separate you from the world, but rather they bind you closer to it. Humanity at times can be brutal and petty and
mean-spirited, but that’s never an excuse for you to be that way. You are so much more and so much better than a
bad day.
I am not your friend. I don’t care what you think about me. Most importantly, we are not equals. Think about it: how
can we be equals if you depend on me for everything? If you’re going to take the iPhone, then you have to take my
rules. Some people call it parenting. When you don’t need me for things, only advice and council, then we can explore
a friendship.
When I ask you to do something right now, I am trying to teach you something about success. No one ever became a
grand success by doing it later. You’re right, your room is yours. I am less concerned with the state of it than I am of
your mind it sounds ridiculous to you, but a clean space makes it easier to be creative and productive. When you let
your room slide, you are likely to let everything else slide too, like homework.
I am not a Tiger Mom. Sometimes you do your best and you fail, and you need to learn to be okay with that, too. When
you become overly concerned with pleasing your friends and making them happy it takes away your focus, your job,
which right now is school. The balance you learn to strike right now will carry you through your entire life
where friendships can be vital. But you cannot rely on a great friendship to buy you a house.
I promise you this, though: as long as you tell me the truth, you will never get into trouble, though I can’t promise I
won’t be disappointed.
Until you have children of your own, you won’t realize the depth in which I love you. I would do anything for you. I am
your greatest cheerleader and your biggest fan. Sometimes you scream “Why do you hate me!” when I am doing my
job as a mother. You don’t understand that if I indeed hated you. I would let you get on with it and shrug my shoulders
and not say a word. When I stand my ground and open myself up to your vitriol and disregard and general railroading,
that, my dear, is love.
The most important thing for you to understand is though you may be convinced otherwise, whatever happens in this
crazy, upside-down life, you will never, ever be alone. So maybe, just once in a while, will you keep this in mind and be
a little kinder to me.
Your ever loving,
Concept Notes:
MAKING THE DECISION: DECIDING WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE SEX
The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you, and you alone. Therefore, don’t be afraid to say
“NO” if that’s how you feel.
Ask yourself:
Am I really ready to have sex?
Am I doing this for the right reason?
How do I plan to protect myself/ my partner from sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy?
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Answer Sheet
Name: ______________________________ Section: ____________________ Date: ______________ Score: ____________
Activity: STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHIPS
State whether these statements are True or False.
1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
2. To love someone, we must love our self first.
3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps us
build and maintain relationships.
4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.
5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling behind our words,
more likely than not, our relationships is doing well.
6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgive when a loved one has hurt us.
7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.
8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain good relationships
9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good relationships.
10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a problem in relationships.
11. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones stay connected by spending time with
us and letting us know that they love us.
12. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in relationships.
13. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
14. Being compassionate, forgiving and grateful contribute to healthy relationships.
15. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills, information, inspiration, practice,
and social support.
Activity: JOURNAL WRITING
Directions: Try to look at your previous and present relationships (Family, friends, and
partnership). Reflect on it and identify the positive and negative impacts of such relationship in
your life.
MY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
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